My 9 year daughter behaviour

[Justmeoriamlost39]

AIBU my 9 year old daughter behaviour is getting the best of us. We lose the calm and the cool, we put her on time out, grounded, no games no phone etc.

Her behaviour is unreal .

Talk with us with attitude like she know better.

Shopping times in family - she is bored then makes a face like she been forced to be there ( she can't stay at home alone ) oblivious.

Days out in family same behaviour - or before we leave home she begins with I don't want to go, or she do something that lets us very stress .

Well any type of entertainment that is not about her she behave badly .

And cause argument

We have, 6 months boy, 2 years old girl and her .

I am not sure if is normal anymore or if just her.

Any advice?
Tia

9/10 is a hard age. I had a similar age gap and my eldest had a stroppy stage around 10, which then stopped during lockdown when we suddenly had loads more time together and I was home schooling her, family walks etc instead of out with her friends all day long. It's probably wanting attention when you're busy with the little ones (which I get - 6m and 2 are hard ages). Mines having another moody stage now at 13 and I'm trying to kill her with kindness and affection and attention. It's half working. Good luck!

I think you need to be realistic about how much she will enjoy going shopping with you or going on days out with a toddler. She shouldn't be rude but a stroppy behaviour is normal at her age.