Selling gifted items - yes or no?

[SkyIsBlue55]

So I'm wondering what other people do... I try to make a little bit of extra money (pocket money really, but still useful/needed) selling bits and bobs on Facebook marketplace every so often. Normally things my baby and toddler don't need anymore. However, I really don't know if it's OK to resell things people have gifted to you? I don't mean just gifts, I mean things given that people don't want anymore. For instance, I've got a bundle of clothes, some bought and some were given to me for free second hand. Is it OK to sell them as well if the person doesn't want them back?

Thoughts please. Thank you.

If you really have a need for the money, and they don't want them back, then it would be fine. It's the sort of thing people start threads complaining about on here, however, if you're found out by the original donor.

Sell them if they’re something off the shelf and not thoughtful keepsafey type things. No point letting them collect dust and clutter up your home.

I would give them to charity, but it's up to you.

Personally I would regift or give to charity if it was something given to me that was used, such as baby clothes or toys.
so given as a gift you’re to sell given as a hand me down then charity shop or gift to someone else who can use them.

I feel a bit odd about this, wouldn't feel comfortable selling and profiting from something someone gifted to me. I'd just pass it on to a charity shop.

If someone passed on secondhand items I would call them and ask them if they want them back. But otherwise your good to go.

Childrens clothes/toys that they've outgrown - no point hanging on to them.
Outright gifts of new things to you - yes, just go ahead and sell them
Donated hand-me-downs - maybe check the person isn't expecting them back soon.

I'm currently decluttering, and torn about pictures etc that I can't stand, but were gifts.

Charity shop - takes away any guilt.

What about things from people you don't know, like Freebay?

I'm thinking more because I want to sell a bundle of clothes and was thinking about putting some things into it that I got from Freebay as well?

I had quite a few items some which I had bought and some passed down from a friend, I asked her if she wanted anything back (which she didn’t) then said I’m going to try to sell some stuff as a bundle and will split the money.

Oh from Freebay, yeah of course you can try sell them

Personally I think it's fine, once you are certain that the person who gave it to you didn't give it on loan. Once it actually belongs to you, you can dispose of it as you wish.
I think people get upset if they give something in the belief that a person needs it and it's going to use it, if that person then eBay's it straight away - it's the deception and scamming the original owner.
But if your child has outgrown clothes/toys, it's better to see that on than to waste them.

Also people put stuff on freebay because they cba to see it themselves and want rid of it. There's nothing to stop them selling it themselves

Anything gifted to you I would ask out of courtesy. I wouldn't mind if someone came to me and asked if I wanted anything back as they were selling it to make space/outgrown/they needed the money etc. Much better than just coming across your stuff up for sale!

Sell them at your peril. I have known many a relationship destroyed by someone selling an item that was GIVEN to them. Some will argue it's OK, because the item now belongs to that person, but there are a lot of grey areas IMO.

Last summer, a colleague of mine bought her niece (aged 15) a specific item from Disneyland Paris - from a Disney film she loves. Cost some €100 euros, so around £86, and her niece was delighted with it. Put pics on twitter, facebook, and instagram of herself with said item.

Then 3 or 4 months later, her sister in law (niece's mother) said their neighbour from 3 doors down had a little girl aged 5 who had popped around for a coffee, and the little girl 'fell in love' with the item. They didn't have the heart to take it off her, so they gave it to her. (With the niece's agreement of course.)

Rightly or wrongly, my colleague was fuming, and they haven't spoken since. She said she was furious that this frankly expensive and special collectible toy (that she lovingly hunted down for many hours, and bought for her niece from PARIS,) had been thrown away to a random neighbour. She said to her SIL that she will NEVER buy any of her children anything again. And as I said, they've not spoken since. (My colleague's husband hasn't spoken to her or his brother either as he was pissed off too.) This was November time, so some 7 months ago.

So yeah, be careful @SkyIsBlue55 If you ARE going to sell stuff GIVEN to you, (or even give it away,) consult the person who gave it to you.

I'd sell something that was given to me brand new, as a gift, but wouldn't sell things I'd been given for free that were used.

When we give things away on Freecycle, I do not mind whether the person collecting them is going to use them or sell them. These are items that I think would be more hassle than it is worth to try to sell, and that I want to keep out of landfill because they are still perfectly good and useful, just surplus to my own requirements. Giving them away can also mean one less new thing that needs to get manufactured and bought (and later thrown away).
So if somebody can make a bit of money by collecting unneeded items I have decided to give away, and then finding someone else who will use them and is willing to pay for them, then I am totally happy with that.

However, if we gave things to a friend who we thought needed them for personal use and the friend turned around and sold them directly thereafter, then that would be a little bit weird. I would want them to at least contact me with a "we do not need the item anymore, do you want it back?" and then if I said "no" it would be fair game for them to sell it.

I genuinely wouldn't mind if someone sold a gift that I'd given because they need the money.

Personally I don't like the whole ethics of scouring free sites for stuff to sell. I think it's wrong. You see those people all the time on those sites all the time, always first in ...me please, me please....and next thing you see the stuff up for sale. So they are literally taking anything that is free and taking it with the intent of making money on it. So other people who are in need miss out. I think it is the lowest of the low.

In your case you got some clothes from a free site, used them for your child and now that your child has outgrown them are going to put them with a bundle of clothes you want to sell. That is a lot different to the arseholes who make a fortune out of grabbing free stuff and selling it on.

I remember passing on some boots to a family member from my child to theirs. I was a little miffed when I saw she was selling them at a later date. I think if you are passed things on you should pass them on or given them to charity personally.

I think in a large bundle of clothes, if the majority of them you bought, adding a few that were passed on is ok. If the majority you got on free cycle then you should also pass them on via free cycle. So just like you benefitted when you needed it, someone else could benefit now.