Should I be worried

[Rosebel]

Has anyone had a late walker and talker who was actually fine as they got older?
My 2 year old still isn't walking. He can walking holding on to things and he can pull himself up holding on to things.
He also isn't really talking yet. He only says a few words although he babbles a lot.
I can't help worrying that something is wrong.
He doesn't really eat either. He eats twice a week at nursery but at home he only eats yogurt and mini cheedars. He used to eat more but literally refuses everything else now. I've tried distraction, ignoring, eating with him but nothing works.
My DD2 has autism although she didn't present like this. I can't help worrying something is wrong.
We are supposed to be seeing the physiotherapist and speech and language specialist but haven't heard anything.
Please be honest. Am I right to be worried or are there any reassuring stories out there?

I had a friend whose daughter couldn't walk at 2 but she soon practised, massaged her legs a lot with oil and just held her hands when walking and she soon started walking in a few months...

The talking...I think boys take longer to talk...my sister in laws son was 2.5 years old when he started speaking...do you speak to him a lot? Also try putting on tv shows like Yakka Dee where they're repeating words a lot...

The eating...my daughter wasn't great at eating but the moment I sat with her and offered different foods and she saw me eating she wanted to try different things...

Also try chasing the specialists up so you can get better advise and get some answers if you're concerned..

Thanks. He will happily walk holding hands or on the furniture but I'm not sure if it's lack of confidence or that h just can't walk independently. He tries to pull himself up if he's on the floor but can't do that.
We do lots of talking at home and he babbles back as if he's answering but only says a few words. I haven't seen Yakadee but will have a look.
With his eating I'm just worried. I'm sure he must be missing vital vitamins and minerals.

Do you give vitamins?
My DS is 2 and was a late talker but early on everything else. He still struggles with some words and I do believe boys are later talkers. It's good that you have referrals. At my DS's 2 year check they referred him to speech and language and got an appointment within 2 months so it's definitely worth chasing. They signed him off the same day as they also did a hearing test that day. Turns out sometimes he's just ignorant 🤣.

Yes. With a history of autism I would see this as something requiring investigation.

My boys are very different and both autistic.

I have been taking my toddler to play groups hoping seeing other children talking will encourage him to talk, he is only 19 months and says 0 words which is worrying me, when I talked to some of the ladies there I found that some kids didn't talk until they were 2.5, some were also late walkers, I think it can be normal and within the range for your son but again nothing better than speaking to your health visitor and requesting a referral, not sure if you mentioned where abouts you live but if you're in the UK it'll be a very long waiting list which says that a lot of the children are late talkers. Try not to stress about it because he will sense it.

My dd. Now 16 and perfectly fine, was just slow to walk and talk

My 5year old DS was a late walker and late talker. He was a bum shuffler, could walk using a baby walker from 21 months but not on his own until 2 days after his 2nd birthday. Physiotherapist couldn't see any reason for the delay.
Speech was also behind. We struggled to translate some of his words which made him very frustrated. He saw a speech therapist in March 2020 just before he was 3 and didn't see one again until end of last year for a few appointments. As well as going to nursery once he was able to, what really helped DS was singing. He loves singing. I made a very very long Disney playlist on Amazon music (think 7 hours). It had songs from movies and cartoons and the park rides. Hearing him trying to sing the words to into the unknown, some things never change and the word imagination when a few months earlier he couldn't even say mama was great.
He has now been discharged as he's suddenly caught up with a lot of his friends. His teacher said if we hadn't taken him to speech therapy appointments she wouldn't have guessed he had an issue.
He's brilliant at maths and is going up the sets in phonics. His teacher says he's where he should be for his age at phonics. I love looking at his school app every week and seeing all the points for amazing phonics and great maths.

I know the waiting list long. HV referred us to the paediatrics team. When we saw the doctor just before Easter she said it would be put through as urgent because of his age.
I think I will call the HV on Monday

DH didn’t talk until he was older. Apparently just didn’t want to. He is now a teacher and business owner. Annoying man, but very normal.

One dd not walking at two but talked well, no cognitive issues but hypermobility

ds Not walking or talking at two. Hypermobility
Still not talking age 25...he has LDs a microdeletion syndrome and diagnosed asd.

Look
For all "he turned out to be fine"
Some will have long term needs
So
He needs full assesment and probably intervention
Espec with family history of asd

Thanks it's reassuring to hear that he might just be a bit behind. He was born a little early but only by 3 weeks. He struggled with feeding in the first 2 weeks and wound up back in hospital. Then was late crawling and that added to the fact DD has autism (high functioning) makes me worry.
He's loving so funny and sweet a lot of the time but I can't help worry about his future. He's also started hitting and I can't remember if that's normal or not. I've got my two older girls but they are teenagers and I can't remember if they used to hit or not.
The worry mostly happens at night rather than in the day.

Your child needs assessed. There is family history. As you know girls and boys present very differently but developmental delay can be a very clear marker in ASD.

You cannot change the outcome by worrying.

you can change things by being proactive about getting him assessed resesrching local suppirt if he does have SEN
He needs assessment
Maybe therapies or a specific nursery for his needs if he has them
You need to go one step at a time