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to treat stomach bug at home?

11 replies

needanotherholidayy · 24/06/2022 17:17

Hi everyone,

so my almost 2 year old son started vomiting yesterday at around 11 am and developed a fever.

I kept the fever down with the appropriate doses of paracetamol.

He didn't want to drink water, but he drank milk, which kept him hydrated.

He ate a bit of pasta.

He wasn't lethargic, he played a bit during the day and watched Cocomelon.

For this reason I decided not to take him to A&E.

In the evening he developed 40 degrees fever, which wouldn't go down with paracetamol. We also already had given him 4 doses in 24 hours, so couldn't give him anymore.

My husband therefore decided to take him to A&E. I stayed at home with our 4 month old baby.

The nurse there told him off and said we should have brought him in straight away when he started vomiting.

She said she would be reporting us to the health visitor/social services as she was "concerned about our parenting".

She said this to my husband in a room full of other parents and patients.

It was quite a humiliating experience for him.

My husband then spoke to a doctor. The doctor admitted that the nurse might be "overzealous", but that there is a new department in the hospital, which has to ensure doctors and nurses follow the correct safeguarding procedures.

The reason is the recent cases of severe child neglect/abuse, for which the media blamed health professionals that they didn't help the children.

I can completely understand this, but surely it is normal to treat vomiting and fever at home before you present your child to A & E?

I am not from this country, so is there something I am missing?

I remember as a child when I was ill and vomited and had fever, my mother treated us at home and made soup for us and brought the fever down with tablets.

In case of very high fever she took us to the doctors.

I already reported the nurse to PALS, because we disagree with her abrupt behaviour and that she said what she said in front of other patients and didn't care about confidentiality.

We're quite concerned that this will go on our record and get us into problems and we sincerely don't understand the nurse's behaviour.

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MatildaTheCat · 24/06/2022 17:27

You were right and she was wrong and hopefully you will receive an apology and she will receive further education.

It won’t go on your records as poor parenting. You did exactly what any sane HCP would recommend.

LiesDoNotBecomeUs · 24/06/2022 17:29

I am glad that you complained to PALs

Your treatment of your child sounds like that suggested by the NHS website (111 ) for D & V in children.

I can't see what you have done wrong.

dementedpixie · 24/06/2022 17:33

She sounds a bit bonkers!
Of course you treat at home first. You could have tried ibuprofen when the paracetamol didn't have an effect

HSKAT · 24/06/2022 17:37

You were right she was wrong.
I can't see how you done anything wrong.

YouBoggleMyMind · 24/06/2022 17:44

The Nurse sounds crackers and you didn't do anything wrong. In fact you were more than sensible! Glad you spoke to PALS.

11Hawkins · 24/06/2022 17:45

You haven't done anything wrong I was about to say why are you taking them A&E for a sickness bug!

There's a awful bug going round atm, hope your little one is better soon.

Hbh17 · 24/06/2022 17:49

As a child, like everyone, I had numerous stomach bugs. I have only been to A&E once in my life - when I was 45 years old!
Of course you treat these things at home - imagine the chaos if everyone took their kids to A&E for something so trivial?

needanotherholidayy · 24/06/2022 17:59

Thanks everyone.

I think this nurse was definitely crazy/malicious and I think the doctor knew it, but he sort of was sticking up for her.

What does a stomach bug have to do with child abuse?

If we were abusers, we surely wouldn't present him at A&E at all?

I am looking forward to the reply email from the hospital. 😒

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PollyDarton1 · 24/06/2022 18:03

You did exactly the right thing - the advice is literally to keep vomiting children at home to let the bug pass. The fever, less so - if it's not coming down with medicine, then yeah, definitely 111 or A&E, which is exactly what your husband did.

Incidentally, he'd probably have gotten a bollocking for bringing a vomiting child into A&E with no other real symptoms, so you'd not have been able to win!

stayathomegardener · 24/06/2022 18:06

The only thing that is unreasonable is giving your DC dairy which makes stomach bugs worse, best to avoid all dairy for 3-7 days.

Hope he feels better soon.

comealongponds · 24/06/2022 18:16

YANBU

you took him in at the right point, when he had a high temp that you couldn’t get down.

a child who is vomiting but hydrated and not too unwell in themselves does not need to be rushed to A&E. they just need fluids and rest and monitoring at home in case they become more ill. Which is exactly what you did.

i could understand if he was a tiny baby as they can become dehydrated very quickly, but not an older child.

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