More of an 'Am I being over sensitive?'

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I haven't had a holiday in a few years now, what with lockdown, money worries, and the fact my 2 teenagers don't really want to go with me any more (I'm a single parent.) I have a long-term friend who I'm staritng to find a bit tone deaf and wonder if I'm being over sensitive? She goes away every couple of months with her patner and/or family, mostly long weekends away, but longer trips to France etc too. She always sends me lots of pics of gorgeous beaches etc. I'm happy for her, but it leaves me feeling a bit sad tbh. I'm currently ill with covid, she knows this, and I have just had another slew of lovely beach photos and this time it has irritated me since it just seems a bit thick skinned that she hasn't thought that maybe Im not having the best of times right this minute, even if she is. Am I being precious, or is she being insensitive?

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You're being sensitive personally 🤷🏻‍♀️

Bit of both - but if she’s a friend then you should be able to tell her (once she’s back) thanks v much but she doesn’t need to send you beach pics.

in the meantime you don’t have to look at them, and if looking at them makes you sad just delete them when they turn up

I think it’s insensitive in this particular situation, but not usually if she’s just wanting to share the odd pic (unless it’s loads!) so I’d say something like ‘looks lovely but I’m probably not the person to be sending them to at the moment given how rubbish I’m feeling’. Just be honest, might make her a bit more aware, I hope you feel better soon.

I think it is weird sending 'lots' of pics, but yes I think insensitive if this friend knows you haven't had a holiday and would like one.

Just stop replying to the pictures and delete them.