To feel so hurt about being ghosted by friend in mutual group?

[Celia24]

I made friends with several people in my old workplace. Myself and one guy got on very well, talked a lot during the lockdowns, had lots in common & also have the same hobby so end up at similar events.

Later in the year, things eased up & we weren't in touch as much. He got a girlfriend and I started seeing a guy.

We remained friends and then I got a new job, he said I'll miss you but we'd still see each other during meet ups. Our main mode of contact has been Instagram. I got in touch lately to ask how he was etc nearly a month ago. He saw it and ignored it but kept watching my stories. Since then I've noticed he has unfollowed me - my profile is private so he cannot see anything about me now.

Essentially I'm left feeling very hurt and disposable. I also feel awkward - our mutual friends have asked me to meet up soon and he is also going. I don't understand why he's behaved like this and it has affected me more than it should. Why do people do this?

Maybe he's the sort who disappears when they get a partner

ignore that type when they come crawling back.

@AchatAVendre this sums up how I feel. That it's clumsy/thoughtless. Aside from the friend group, we work in a small industry and am fairly certain we'll be at lots of the same events in the near future. Burning the bridge seems strange.

During the first lockdowns we both lived alone & called each other loads/became close then. Still socialised up until fairly recently. Either he might regret burning the bridge in future or he's ridden off into the sunset forever. Good luck to him. When I see him I'll be civil but not more.