To think men want it all 'traditional values'

[Blendiful]

Starting to realise a bit of a trend and maybe it just picking the wrong people but men seem to want it all with me.

They want me to do the typical 'women's jobs' cleaning, washing, sorting the kids out, life admin etc.

But I also work full time, am capable of fixing and building, cutting grass etc, things considered 'man's jobs'.

I feel like I've moved forwards in becoming more independent and all it's done for me instead of making it equal is mean I do even more than I did before!

I think that's fine! As long as they're willing to do it all too.

YANBU.

I can totally relate.

Just don’t do it?
Im sitting here with a G&T while DP cleans the kitchen. We have a pretty even split. I’m not someone’s maid and won’t be treated as such

Exactly. Just don't. They can want whatever they'd like, doesn't mean you facilitate it.

Roles are reversed in our household. DH works full time, does the pick up and 90% of the housework.

I am the breadwinner, do the morning drop offs and cook dinner. I might put a load of washing on if I want something in particular washed, otherwise it's all DH!

100% relate.

Are you thin and flat with bristles, like a doormat? No? Then stop letting men walk all over you.

They can want what they like, what you do is up to you.

Pick better men?

It's the double burden. I saw one of my son in laws try to put it on my DD. Not only did he expect her to be all things, she got no respect for the unpaid part. She decided that it was better to go it alone.

Talk to your husband. I do 100% of house hold and child chores. He brings in 100% of the income.

But, before anyone panics I receive an income mobilised by my husband and I have savings/property in my name. Essentially I am happy to be married and I’m covered if he runs off with the secretary 😆

Yep, well who wouldn’t I guess.

But just.. don’t do it?

You need to chose different men, or a woman. I’m gay and find it hard to believe some of the shit my straight friends put up with from their DPs ! It’s like they’re their mothers instead of wives…