To find partner mentioning this woman a bit irritating

[Teacher7676]

It's one of his friend's girlfriends, I've never met her. He's known the other guy for a few months.
He told me that the girlfriend really likes him, Which is great.
Then he said it again a couple of weeks later.
Then a few days ago she apparently said to him that he had a lovely smile, and that this was why he was likeable, he told me this.
Then I said oh that's nice to say, then he said in a jokey way, "Because she actually rates me, unlike you."
I had no idea why he said that, i always give him compliments and do my best for him.
I don't know if he fancies her, don't get why he needs to tell me that she really likes him, twice?
Maybe I'm just being jealous?
It's great if they all get on but it just seems a bit much

Mentionitis. He does fancy her. You aren’t just being jealous.

Agreed:bet he'd hate it if it was the other way around

Of course he fancies her
He's as subtle as a brick to the temple.

He fancies her.

Definitely wouldn't be unreasonable to assume he fancies her - those are really odd comments to relay back to you. I can't tell if it's weird that the gf said them - she might be flirting or she might just be being friendly and he's reading too much into them. Are you likely to socialise with the best friend and his gf any time soon? Then you could observe them both interacting with one another.

*them = your partner and the best friend's gf

Oh dear :( what do I do about it?

He's pissing me off and I’ve never met him so you’re doing well not to have told him to STFU.

And yes, he clearly fancies her and he’s not very subtle understatement

He either...

Fancies her.
Doesn't fancy her but is really flattered she fancies him.
Feeling insecure about himself and wants reassurance from you.

Or maybe a bit of all of the above.

He definitely fancies her. How embarrassing that he feels the need to make it so bloody obvious to his actual partner.

It’s honestly pathetic the way some men become so utterly stupid when faced with the tiniest crumb of female attention.

Whatever's going on, he doesn't need to try to put you and your relationship down. That's not nice at all. I think you need to focus on that, the stuff about you supposedly 'not rating him'.

He sounds pathetic. What a turn off.

I agree with @worraliberty . I had the same experience with an ex and he did fancy this other woman however he was also trying to get a rise out of me as he felt neglected.

Hmmm not sure if he fancies her, but he's defintely trying to make you jealous.

I would just call him out on it.

He fancies her, wants to make you jealous, but only sounds insecure and pathetic.

How unattractive.

Would make my legs cross tbh how unattractive

‘She appreciates me, unlike you’ is one of the reasons my ex h gave for cheating on me…

I think I'd tell him to crack on with it tbh, I bet she doesn't fancy him and he'll make a tit of himself but he wouldn't be your problem any more.

He sounds like a bellend.

When you say partner OP, how long? Do you live together?

Do you want to leave him?

He wants to make you jealous because he's utterly pathetic. Call him out and he'll squirm. Don't let him get away with trying to make you as insecure as he is.

Oh for goodness sake. He fancies someone, not quite the same as having an affair with them. Everyone has a wee fancy now and then. The problem here is his inability to keep it to himself.

OP tell him to grow up

But it isn’t only that he fancies someone. He fancies someone and he either a) is using this to make the OP jealous and wind her up OR b) is too stupid to realise he will get sussed out. Neither is a great look in a partner.

Unless there’s a huge back story this would be a huge turnoff and potential dealbreaker for me.

Um yeah what he means is he really likes her. Yeah you’ve a problem op and so does his mate becayse he’s after his girlfriend. What a pathetic little man. Categorically the woman knows and is being patronising.

He's acting like an immature teen, it's all very unattractive. She was most probably just being friendly (if she said those things at all), but he's saying it to you to try and make you feel jealous and to show you other women fancy him 🤦🏼‍♀️
I would tell him he's being a dick.

It's up to OP if she's happy with this or not.

Then I said oh that's nice to say, then he said in a jokey way, "Because she actually rates me, unlike you." this bit would be it for me.