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Starting to be a bit paranoid about my look, thinking that I look masculine

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Teacher7676 · 22/06/2022 22:24

In terms of how I style myself.
I have a pixie cut, which I have been told suits me, I try to grow it out but get impatient and cut it again.
Anyway, I like it but sometimes feel like the odd one out, know very few women of my age (early 30s) which short hair. Virtually none, and I feel that long hair is generally seen as more 'feminine'.
Next, I don't wear make up (apart from a touch of concealer on spots). I'm not good at applying make up but without blowing my own trumpet I have good skin, eyelashes etc.
I also can't be bothered with the hassle of applying and reapplying, then taking off make up every day.
I don't have my nails done, I just keep them short and plain.
I don't wear heels as I find them uncomfortable. I'd wear them for a wedding or something similar but not for work.
I suppose my clothes can vary, I do wear dresses, and I like tighter, fitted clothes as opposed to baggy but I do wonder that if i wear a blazer and trousers for work (combined with all of the above) that I look masculine.
I feel stupid writing this and hope it doesn't come across badly. I think I've got a feminine face but worry that I should be more 'girly'.
Is anybody else like this or felt this way?

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MalingeringMary · 23/06/2022 01:11

Teacher7676 · 22/06/2022 22:24

In terms of how I style myself.
I have a pixie cut, which I have been told suits me, I try to grow it out but get impatient and cut it again.
Anyway, I like it but sometimes feel like the odd one out, know very few women of my age (early 30s) which short hair. Virtually none, and I feel that long hair is generally seen as more 'feminine'.
Next, I don't wear make up (apart from a touch of concealer on spots). I'm not good at applying make up but without blowing my own trumpet I have good skin, eyelashes etc.
I also can't be bothered with the hassle of applying and reapplying, then taking off make up every day.
I don't have my nails done, I just keep them short and plain.
I don't wear heels as I find them uncomfortable. I'd wear them for a wedding or something similar but not for work.
I suppose my clothes can vary, I do wear dresses, and I like tighter, fitted clothes as opposed to baggy but I do wonder that if i wear a blazer and trousers for work (combined with all of the above) that I look masculine.
I feel stupid writing this and hope it doesn't come across badly. I think I've got a feminine face but worry that I should be more 'girly'.
Is anybody else like this or felt this way?

Honestly , nobody gives a fuck. Just be you.

Agapornis · 23/06/2022 01:17

You sound much like me - but what about your friends, are they all the long wavy hair, perfect make-up, Insta selfies type? I have a few acquaintances like that, and sometimes wonder if I'm missing out...
But only for a brief moment. Then I realise how much I love cutting my own short hair whenever I get bored with it, not wasting money on makeup I don't want to wear, sleeping in, having a rather large, varied wardrobe, walking without breaking my ankles. I'm topping it off by building muscles! Please don't compare yourself to others, meet your own standards not their

IdisagreeMrHochhauser · 23/06/2022 10:53

Come over to the feminism boards and we'll embrace you. Top MN tip, avoid Style and Beauty.

picklemewalnuts · 23/06/2022 11:04

It's such an attractive look, really emphasises the person, imo.
I saw an older actress styled like this last night, she looked sensational- though she was made up.

Annie Lennox looks amazing.

CaliforniaDrumming · 23/06/2022 11:13

Tilda Swinton! who wouldn't want to look like her in a blazer and trousers.

Calphurnia88 · 23/06/2022 11:36

Pixie cuts can look amazingly chic and feminine on the right person. Sadly I don't have the face for one (strong features, chubby cheeks).

You sound very stylish OP, don't change unless you want to.

BlackForestCake · 23/06/2022 17:29

You are not “masculine”, you look like a woman. We are so bombarded with images of women performing “femininity” with makeup and high heels etc that some of us have started believing that just being a woman is somehow androgynous or masculine.

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