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to think it shouldn't cost a thousand just to visit family

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number5namechange · 22/06/2022 22:06

a few hrs away on the train?

So both me and dh don't drive due to medical issues/lack of confidence.So use public transport.

We are going to visit his family in a few weeks ( monday to Wednesday) with a grand cost of one thousand pounds!!!
That includes train fare for 2 adults and 3 kids. Premier inn with breakfast. We also have to pay for our own food when there. Some spending money ( 200)

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bluejelly · 22/06/2022 22:09

That seems a helluva lot. How long is a few hours. Have you got a family railcard?

IsDaveThere · 22/06/2022 22:13

It depends really. Where are you travelling to/from? Train travel is not cheap and if you are going from John O'Groats to Lands Ends for example, it will cost ££££. Have you go the cheapest tickets you could? Would a coach or National Express be an option?

Two nights in a Premier Inn shouldn't cost that much.

bloodywhitecat · 22/06/2022 22:13

That seems a crazy amount of money!

MichelleScarn · 22/06/2022 22:13

Return train fare for 5, and 2 nights in a hotel with b&b or £200 a head, not too bad really?

UndertheCedartree · 22/06/2022 22:13

That is a lot! I took my DC away last Summer on the train and stayed at a Premier Inn for 3 nights. I spent about a third of that. You know kids eat free for breakfast at Premier Inn? Also look at a Rail card and advanced tickets can be really cheap. Our Premier Inn was above an Aldi so we got most of our food from there. Do you really need £200 to spend just for one full day? How much are you paying for the Premier Inn as obviously that will affect it massively.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 22/06/2022 22:14

Well - it would be cheaper if either of you drove, but since you don’t, your options are limited. The price of train travel is shocking these days. I need to go to Edinburgh in September and can get a flight from my local airport for a sixth of the price of the train fare, which seems ridiculous 🤷🏼‍♀️

OneCup · 22/06/2022 22:15

What's the distance? Doesn't help if you're booking last second

TheWayoftheLeaf · 22/06/2022 22:15

So actually it's 1000 for

Spends - 200
Train - 300?
Hotel - 400?
Food - 100 (more if including meals out)

For 5 people, admittedly three are children, it's definitely a bit high but not massively outrageous for essentially a holiday. Especially if it's somewhere like London or Cornwall?

If somewhere cheaper I'd try and cut costs on the spending money and try and find a Travellodge.

TheWayoftheLeaf · 22/06/2022 22:16

You could also try something like a coach which can be about £10 Lo

FlissyPaps · 22/06/2022 22:17

That sounds extortionate!

Is the hotel or train travel the most costly?

I refuse to pay stupid amounts for train fare and will also grin and bare a MegaBus or National Express coach for a lot less.

luxxlisbon · 22/06/2022 22:18

Visiting family is irrelevant, 5 of you are travelling a few hours with 2 overnight stays and including the cost of food and spending money.

number5namechange · 22/06/2022 22:20

Travelling from Edinburgh to up north.
We do have a railcard and our tickets are off peak returns.
So
400 train tickets including taxi when there
300 premier inn with breakfast
200 spending money
100 food shop

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BarbaraofSeville · 22/06/2022 22:21

While it can't be denied that trains are extortionatly expensive in this country, its not just 'visiting family by train' but a mini break for 5 people including spending money.

Unless you go on Megabus, stay with his family and also have them feed you, that's what it costs.

Skelligsfeathers · 22/06/2022 22:22

What's ' up north?'

SandyWedges · 22/06/2022 22:22

How much is the taxi and how much is the train?

mug2018 · 22/06/2022 22:22

Try booking a single ticket one way & a single back - usually cheaper than a return fare
Also if there are stops or changes book single tickets to a stop & then a single to your destination
Don't know why but it can work out cheaper

SandyWedges · 22/06/2022 22:22

BarbaraofSeville · 22/06/2022 22:21

While it can't be denied that trains are extortionatly expensive in this country, its not just 'visiting family by train' but a mini break for 5 people including spending money.

Unless you go on Megabus, stay with his family and also have them feed you, that's what it costs.

Agreed. It's a holiday trip.

OnaBegonia · 22/06/2022 22:24

@Skelligsfeathers
Up north, is quiet easy to figure out, from Edinburgh.

Cakemamma19 · 22/06/2022 22:24

I want to go and visit my sister up north next month with my husband and 2 year old daughter. It's just under £1000 JUST for train. We'd need hotel,bus to her town and food. Impossible

to think it shouldn't cost a thousand just to visit family
airrrrAIRRRRiELLLL · 22/06/2022 22:25

Are you saying Premier Inn is £150 a night? Is this for a family room? That is a lot

BarbaraofSeville · 22/06/2022 22:25

£150 a night in a Premier Inn?

£100 for food shopping in 3 days when you don't have to buy breakfast?

Plus more spending money on top?

Train sounds a lot more than I'd expect too, but it is for 5 people.

KvotheTheBloodless · 22/06/2022 22:26

You could go by coach, that's loads cheaper, and stay at an SYHA or similar (I stayed at a fab one in Inverness with DS)?

catpoppet · 22/06/2022 22:27

Try the ticketsplitter website, you will likely find a hefty discount by purchasing individual journeys splitting the fare (specified by the site and purchasable in one go) of the journey. Always worth checking.

mdinbc · 22/06/2022 22:27

To me you shouldn't include food costs into a trip, since you have to feed yourselves whether you are away or at home. Ask if your hotel has a small fridge, and do a small grocery shop as you would at home. You can buy meals that don't need cooking at shops as well, it doesn't need to be meals out or take-out.

HarvestFly · 22/06/2022 22:29

Why are including spending money and food as a cost of visiting family?