To cut off my family?

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I was seriously sexually abused by my dad's step-dad for 15 years of my life. I disclosed this to my family recently and my dad has taken the view to remain in contact with this man and doesn't even want his mum to know.

My dad has other younger children and is still happy for them to be in contact with him. He's apologising and saying he feels guilty, but isn't willing to do anything about it.

WIBU to cut my family off to protect my own mental health and try and heal from this trauma?

You would not be unreasonable at all. Do what you need to do to protect yourself.

If you are worried that your Dad's younger children are at risk you can report to social services. Or police?

But at the moment it sounds as if you're struggling and you need to put yourself first. Talking to your family is an incredibly brave thing to do and I'm sorry they have not been more supportive.

Do you have any MH support? Have you spoken to your GP?

Please look after yourself.

You are absolutely not unreasonable. I’m incredibly sorry that your dad is not supporting you, it is dreadful. I have cut out my own father for far less, and I’m so much happier and feel free of past traumas.

I’ve got to a place where I wish him absolutely no harm, but equally I no longer wish to put myself in a position of harm either. It has meant losing other family members as a consequence as I didn’t feel like I wanted to have to correct lies told by my father, but I’m ok with that too.

I wish you all the best and I’m so sorry for what you went through.