To think mumsnet is obsessed with “class”

[Lauraryderv]

I’ve been on mums net for about 8 years and This website has only got worse, it makes me wonder why I’m still on it sometimes. Why does everything always come back to if you are upper class/middle class/lower class I’ve never known anything like it. The snobbery is the worst with names people on her are perfectly happy to call their baby a pretentious name like clementine or Francesca but god forbid someone wants to call their kid a “trendy” name like Willow or Harper. Is there any genuine normal working class people on this app or is it just wannabe middle class snobs??

If you've been here that long, you'll know the Baby Names forum is full of fantastical fuckwits and lonely people looking a chat.

I think there are posters who are obsessed with the idea posters are obsessed with class.

I prefer a mix, as they all give different perspectives, but it all depends on who uses mumsnet etc

That's right. I wouldn't take the names section too seriously.

And yet here you are starting a thread about class bigging up your working class credentials….

Hi, this is my first post on here. I am a mum of 5 children aged 20, 13, 13, 12 and 4. Of which 3 from my previous marriage, my partners 13 year old Son from his previous marriage and our four year old (starts sch in sept) we have had together. I don’t work but I’d like to. I feel resentful that my partner works all day and comes home to dinner, washing done, kids taken care of etc… the problem is before we moved in together I made it clear that I didn’t want any more children and I didn’t need the extra work load of him and his child. I was working happily at the time. I was some how talked into having our youngest who I love dearly but Ive ended up in the place again where I didn’t want to be. Stay at home mum drowning in chores. Im 42 and I thought I’d be working, continuing with my career and children becoming independent. Instead, I feel so bogged down and depressed with being an extremely busy stay at home mum that there is no time or way for me to work looking after the six of them. It’s 3am - Im currently downstairs so we don’t wake daddy with our dd who is suffering from the itchy stage of chicken pox 😩😭

In the UK, and in many other places, class is the medium through which we live the world. It's like irony, it's what we do. Acknowledging class does not make anyone a shit, it's how we behave towards others that matters.

I'd agree with that.
I've been here since 2003 and every middle class Farrow and Ball thread there's an I'm so poor we have to eat coal one.
I'd say 99% of MNers fit in neither group and care even less.

Surely wannabe snobs are likely to be working class, and actual snobs would be of a higher class?

The only people I see discussing class on here are people like you - who sneer at those they deem to be in a higher 'class'.

You've not been on here long then.

Exactly this!

I agree, I never talk about class, it's not an issue. I have a wide range of friends from different backgrounds. I also live overseas which helps. MN is obsessed what is middle class, it's a dull subject.

MN is not obsessed with class. Some posters like your good self are.

I don’t see much discussion on class on here, except for these threads titled ‘why is MN obsessed with class’.

i only ever see class mentioned on MN.

I’m starting to think MN are creating their own posts recently and the site is losing its original appeal.

if you had been here 8 years I can’t see why you would create such a post!

There’s a thread about this topic roughly once a day.

Most Mumsnetters are terrified they are not MC enough so the threads are great for them to get tips on which brands of clothes to wear, what to eat, where to go on holiday etc.

@Rjay2002 be best to start your own thread, that way you can get the support you need.

I’m currently listening to the social distance between us by Darren McGavey. Really interesting exploration of class and how in shows up in our society.
I generally take a lot of what some people say here with a pinch of salt. However as a society we are still class based so it makes sense it shows up here.

Class is just another lazy stereotype.

Sneering at the 'middle' classes is somehow an acceptable form of bigotry - just replace every derogatory 'middle class' post with 'working class' and see how utterly vile, parochial and narrow-minded it sounds.

See also posts about 'rude' Londoners - replace 'Londoner' with 'Northerner' and see if it still sounds acceptable.

MN is just reflecting mass media (and social media) though, it isn't unique.

I commented on a thread about class that I don’t really know what class I am and tbh I’m not interested enough to make and effort to find out. Someone took the time to quote my comment and tell me that made me sound akin to a racist. That really really upset me. I am aware class exists but for me it is not something I ever think about.

There are a lot of threads about it (although I think you should discount Baby Names!) so I agree. Lots of posters are obsessed with class. Or they’re obsessed about talking about it at the very least.

@Rjay2002
Hi
Welcome to mumsnet.
I think it would be better if you started a new thread for your post as this one is about something completely different

You can't be serious. People are obsessed with middle class signifiers and not being "chavvy" or "common". It's like Being John Malkovich for Hyacinth Buckets.