How did you move on?

[Squidpinky]

If you had an event in your life where something happened to you that was incredibly unfair and wrong and you then tried to get justice but didn't because the other person lied and the system is corrupt etc. - how did you move on? I'm really struggling to move on at the moment, I am so full of hatred and I just don't know where to go from here. The hard part is knowing the other person has got away with it, I just can't get over it. Any advice?

They are still winning while this consumes you. Get some talking therapy to help you.
Im sorry you feel this way, it’s such an injustice.

Thankyou. I had CBT a few years ago for a separate incident and felt it didn't help - are there different types of therapy that would be better?

Think of the time and effort you are wasting in your life by focusing on what that person has done to you - do you think they care? Are they losing sleep over it? Are they as concerned about it as you?

I had a best friend who I’d known for years and when I got pregnant with my 2 child, we found out baby was likely going to die during pregnancy, my FIL was diagnosed with cancer and was going to die very shortly and I was struggling with hospital trips with my DS. I was meant to call My friend one evening but cancelled as I was so sick and exhausted and she went absolutely bat shit at me - like really, really vile. I was so upset and my family were so shocked. Long story short, i heard a few months later that she grandma, who she adored, had died. I text her a short text to say I was saddened to hear of her loss and that I hoped she was ok. She text back apologising for everything and that she had actually been sectioned after our argument and she was super apologetic. For me, I thought I could never move past our argument and the stuff she said but looking ahead, forgiving and living my life was the best thing I could’ve done.

I hope you are able to move on as well x