Has anybody else obsessed over their body then realised it was wrong?

[Francais223]

I'm 169cm and go between 60-61kg, so a perfectly healthy BMI of around 21.5 I believe, right in the middle.
Until recently I was trying to get down to 55kg which was really unnecessary looking back.
I'm a size 8, used to be a 6 and remember feeling gutted I couldn't fit into it anymore, even though an 8 is still very slim.
It was very unhealthy looking back, I remember thinking that my arms and legs were big, that my stomach was fat, double chin and so on.
I think social media and all these 'fitness experts' on Instagram don't help. This obsession with clean eating and being incredibly toned.
I'm very happy now and feel a very healthy size.
Has anyone else ever felt like this then realised they didn't need to lose weight?

I'm trying failing to get into a better headspace with my weight/body.

My BMI is 22.5 at 53kg, I'm an 8/10, I go to the gym almost every day, have an active job and run 25km a week so I'm fairly fit.

But in my head, I'm overweight, tubby, and I'd love to lose 5-7kg. I want more muscle on glutes and quads, and a much smaller stomach! I'd like to lose 3 inches from my waist.

It's stupid because none of these things would truthfully improve my life at all, but yet I still strive for it. Probably think about it 80% of the time.

How did you become more positive? What changed? I know I need to change my thoughts.

Yes!
Im over weight tipping a size 16.
However i have previously lost weight from an 18 to 10 by abusing laxatives because i felt my body should look like others. Or i was a big fat blimp etc.

I hate my weight now but i need to get in the head space to do it correctly. I have pcos and constantly crave sugary stuff. To the extreme. Nothing works as a substitute.

Omg yes. So much. I blame diet culture which was just awful, even when I was a teenager in the nineties. I truly thought I needed to weigh around 7 or 8 stone because that's what my prettiest friend weighed. I'm 5'9" with a big frame, so this wasn't likely to happen in a healthy way.

I'm much happier with my body now, but I do have my bad days like anyone else.

Steer clear of some of the weight loss threads on here! Some of the advice on there is only good if you need to lose weight maybe for health reasons. Otherwise, to the wrong person it can border on pro-anorexia 😬

I’d love to be as fat as I thought I was when I started worrying about weight, maybe around age 17 when I was a size 10… 10 years later and I am actually fat now and struggling to lose the weight 🥲

I was always thin shamed. I have always been a size 8 on the dot. Even after dc immediately went back to this size. I am also petite. But growing up in an extended family where everyone was now that I realise on the more overweight side, I can see why I was made to feel this way. I went years and years of trying weight gain diets, weight gain exercise programs. I am now almost 40 and so glad to be the size I am.

A size 8 is pretty much the ideal size for most people!

I know a v overweight person who recently got filmed walking along the street while people screamed "STOP EATING, STOP EATING" and her and "JUST STOP"! Her crime? Daring to eat ice cream. I've been called fat when I was underweight! I was never thin shamed, unless you count "oh lucky you, you're so skinny", which compared to what my friend just had doesn't really count.

While thin shaming is a thing and a horrible thing at that, the shaming overweight people can face from society at large is so much worse.

I still do. The rational part of me knows I shouldn't - but I look in the mirror and don't like what I see. I've got chunky inner thighs that wobble and I don't like it.

I'm 5ft 3.5" and 50kg. I want to weigh 47kg as I felt better at that weight, although my husband said I was too skinny.

I run 6/7 times a week - 40 + miles. And do one session of heavy weights at the gym. I should probably increase that but it's fitting it all in.

I see people the same height as me, who weigh more and they look so much better than I do. I think I don't carry weight well.