To be gutted that she's lost my rings

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I have a couple of rings that I wear, though not in the house. I keep them on a little holder on the kitchen windowsill (makes sense because I often use the back door to go in/out because of where I have to park)

My mam has been house sitting for me and has "tidied up" which means moving stuff round. (it was a work trip, for my new job, and we were asked not to wear jewellery)

The ring holder is gone, and I've just pulled one of my rings out of the hoover pipe. The other is nowhere to be seen.

They're not worth much money but have massive sentimental value to me. I've kept them in the holder for ~18mo and never had a problem. Feel absolutely gutted that one is damaged (stones missing) and the other one is totally gone.

She's blaming me for leaving them in the kitchen but they've been there for ages without a single problem until she started moving stuff!

Have you asked her directly where she moved the ring holder to or just 'please be honest, did you accidentally drop it?' If she says you are bullying etc, just stand your ground. She came into your home and damaged your things. She's now trying to cover her arse. Don't let her get away with it!

Bin was emptied yesterday unfortunately! Hoover is a bagless one and I've had a good look inside but can't see the other ring.

Empty the hoover out onto an old white sheet, wearing rubber gloves go through the contents with a pair of tweezers or a couple of old forks. Ease the accumulated detritus apart, The dust and hair etc tends to form a matted mess due to centrifugal force (well, mine does) I’ve found earrings, rings, a gold tooth (don’t ask) using this method.

But I just don't know because she's not speaking to me and just keeps saying it's my own fault.

What is she actually claiming is your 'fault'? Keeping your possessions in a sensible place, where you want them, without realising that she was going to interfere? It's not like you put them in a plant pot next to an outside drain. She's exercising classic DARVO in saying that you're bullying her: how dare she?

I never understand people who just drop anything into the bin, if they don't instantly have somewhere to put it; but if it's their own stuff, then it's up to them. However, picking up and moving somebody else's stuff, when it's in the place that they keep it and they've never asked you to touch it - and then treating it with great carelessness, is such an arrogant thing to do.

The picking up the shiny things, moving them clumsily, dropping them and then screaming at you that it's not her fault all really makes me wonder if you made a mistake when you said it was your DM - did you actually mean to say 'toddler'?