Ask the post woman to deliver to my address?

[Irishfarmer]

I buy a lot on amazon so does my husband (mostly work stuff). But the last two days the post woman has not delivered parcels to our house but to his parents house instead.

Yesterday she left a small package at the gate for me, the gate was open so she could drive in, it's about 10m up a drive to our back door where parcels are usually delivered. But sometimes drivers go to the front door which is even closer to the gate. She didn't try the door at all. Left the small package on the wall and a few letters in the box. I wasn't too worried about the package being left out we live very rurally on a quiet road but DH said it would still be taken. She then dropped a bigger box with an electrical item to my ILs house. No wrapper on the box so it was clear it was a deep fat fryer which I bought when I was desperate for real chips, but I would prefer my MIL not to know about my 'dirty' eating habits! DH thought maybe she just forgot the parcel and left it at ILs, it's possible.

Today, she dropped letters to the post box - I WFH and saw her I went out, and was at the van, (about to knock on the back window) to ask her to drop parcels here but she must not have seen me and drove away. (I'm 35 weeks preg and not too fast) DH said his mam texted to say there was a parcel at their house for him. He checked it has our address on it.

I'm guessing our usual post lady is on holiday and this one is filling in. She used to do our route years ago. I used to work in an office at the time so she used to deliver parcels to my ILs regardless of what address was on the label, I do know who she is and she knows that they are our family and it's fine, it's a very small area everyone knows who everyone is!

But she was filling in for our route a few weeks ago too and did drive in I heard her so opened the back door, she was just pulling off and I stopped her. She said oh I was going to drop at ILs house I presumed no one was home as there is no car I told her I WFH now and got rid of my car.

I realise I am venting and that this is 100% a non issue!!

AIBU to want post with my address on it delivered to my house when I am in?

Confused. How does she know your DM address. Surely she's delivering to the address on the label?

Oh I see, she knows your family from years ago. But I'm still confused. They could have moved or anything. Surely she's going out of her way to deliver to them when she could have left them with you. At the correct address. Can you contact the sorting office? Ours has a customer service part where you can go in and speak to them. It sounds really strange though.

Where do the in laws live that she's dropping stuff there instead? And does mil never come in your house to see/smell a deep fat fryer? So many questions!

@areallthenameused she knows who my ILs are, that they are my ILs, and knows their address, it would be on her route too they are about 2 miles away

@Cherrysoup I will be discreet 😂I really wanted Mc Donalds chips but the nearest one is a 40 min drive away so I figure skinny fries in the deep fryer will do.

Can you put a note up where she puts the letters saying you are working from home Please don't deliver my parcels elsewhere I'm at home.

I think you must live in one of our local villages. Normal postwoman knows everyone and all the quirks regarding addresses etc. As soon as she’s on holiday or off sick - Facebook is full of anyone know MR/Mrs/Ms xyz. Post just seems to be randomly delivered - not even in the correct village on occasion.
The post office tried to make all the posties do different rounds on a week to week basis last year - it didn’t go at all well. Tbh it would have been easier for everyone to collect from a mailbox like you see in American films.

I thought they lived next door and you had the same names and had just got muddled! Yes I'd definitely ask them not to do this unofficial redirect. Maybe explain sometimes it's gifts for MIL etc and you don't want them to know.

@PattyMelt I think I will do that, I've more stuff arriving this week.

@Alphabet1spaghetti2 sounds similar! The annoying part though was she was at my house this morning, I saw her and tried to stop her but she didn't see me. She left the letters here but the parcel at ILs house. I won't complain because I think she thinks she is doing us a favour. Although I have told her I WFH now the last time I spoke to her about a month ago when she was here. Normal lady should be back in a week or two I'm guessing, the lady covering her used to deliver for our route but got a promotion and doesn't deliver any more. Are you getting an idea of how small this place is and how much everyone knows what everyone else does 🤔

yep give her the benefit of the doubt. She has probably forgotten you work from
home and thinks the parcels are safer at your mil.
totally get the small place thing!

Errrrm no, obviously just mention it to her.

As an aside, you're grown woman. If you want a deep fat fryer it's no-one else's business.

What!? I assumed your ILs were on the same plot / farm. That’s awful - it’s your post and she should deliver to you!

Check your Amazon account. You/DH/someone may have added in delivery instructions with deliver to neighbour (your ILs) if it appears no one is home/no one answers the door,

When she was your regular postie and you worked in an office did you ask her to deliver your parcels to your in laws and now she’s your relief posited she is just doing as you requested in the past? Put a note on your postbox and state all parcels are to be left at your address but don’t go asking for them to be dropped elsewhere again in future.

Get a parcel box at the end of your property.

Our nice postie used to leave parcels up the street with family for my brother in law. Handy. Saves going to the depot for them.

@mum11970 we never officially requested that, we used to get stuff delivered to the ILs when I worked in an office, with their address on the box. I haven't worked in an office since the start of the pandemic but I'm not sure she was our postie then. I guess that's just what she is used to and thinks parcel for me or DH should be dropped at ILs.

Def no need for a parcel box, I'll leave a note on the letter box tonight. We live on a farm but our house is along side a road so she isn't coming up a farm lane which we own or anything. It's along a small/ narrow public road. Our drive is maybe 10 m long from the post box to the back door.

Ah ya I know I can order a deep fryer I suppose not the worst thing to have delivered to you MIL 😂

I left a note on the letter box last night asking for parcels to be left here. As she was reading it just now I went out, (I can see the post box from my office I wasn't just waiting to pounce!). She is the old postie, she said she assumed we would be out and that parcels would be safe with MIL, which is true. But she will leave them here now. Followed by general chit chat!

The saga continues, my DH asked me what I wanted for Christmas. Made a song and dance 'oh no I've left it way too late to order what you want' he then wrapped 3 presents under the tree from him/ DS clearly not what I had asked for.

Postie dropped the parcel containing the gift I asked for here instead of to my ILs where it was addressed to. He was pretty disappointed that his surprise has been ruined.

Insignificant I know but still annoying. I grew up in town, regardless of the name on the label they would deliver to the address stated not somewhere else!