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F’ing … C’ing & B’ing… every second to third word.

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Bionic79 · 21/06/2022 08:33

Just want to ask really, shared garden with 5 properties. One neighbour in particular takes over the whole garden… but the biggest issue is the language. Yesterday every second to third word was F, B or C. I swear but this was beyond a joke and spanned over 3 hours!!

I have been told it’s not anti social. For me there’s no escape unless I go out as my flat faces the garden.

is this anti social, even though probably on a very low scale?

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KangarooKenny · 21/06/2022 08:34

Yes it is, and it’s the people who swear that say it’s not anti-social.

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NightmareSlashDelightful · 21/06/2022 08:44

Who has told you it’s not antisocial?

prettyteapotsplease · 21/06/2022 08:51

If you take away all the Fs, Bs and Cs there'd be little left with some folk, I'm afraid. You can't be the only one who finds it annoying.

Lonelycrab · 21/06/2022 08:59

It’s antisocial for sure. I guess as an adult you’d just have to ignore it, but if it was me and ds10 was here it would really piss me off tbh (scuse language lol) and I’d probably have words unless they looked like a complete nutter.

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Bionic79 · 21/06/2022 09:09

Landlord has told me previously it’s just the way they are.

My son and i have to hear it. Although he’s a teen, think he was mortified by the some of the talk 🫢

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purpleme12 · 21/06/2022 09:12

Our next door neighbours are like this.
My child was 7 when we moved here and she knew all the swear words from them.
But they're not the type of people who you can ask to stop/would consider other people don't like this so there's not a lot you can do about the swearing

Pennyhill22 · 21/06/2022 09:18

That's awful. We had the misfortune of inviting over somebody last summer for a bbq in our garden. We knew they had a tendency to be loud but my god the language was disgraceful and I was mortified. I took the easy way out and said the neighbour had text to ask us to keep the noise down. Never again would I invite them to my home. Some people are just ignorant and have no class.

chillinwithmygnomies · 21/06/2022 09:24

I have a neighbour who is the same, swearing doesn't usually bother me but every other word is c'ing this and c'ing that ... not great when you've got young children wanting to play out in the garden 🙄

Badger1970 · 21/06/2022 09:30

Get an air horn, and blast it every time you hear a swear word.

We did this every time the NDN's dog barked. Scared the crap out of the little fecker and it soon stopped barking.

sayanythingelse · 21/06/2022 09:35

I used to work with a woman like this. She was like if Hyacinth Bucket lived on a rough council estate - she thought she was really sophisticated and above everyone but the constant swearing was really classless. I don't mind swearing but when it's every other word, then it just comes across as aggressive in my opinion.
I'd keep complaining to your landlord. It's obviously ruining your enjoyment of your home and really inappropriate if there are children around.

5128gap · 21/06/2022 09:43

Yup. All the cool sweary people will say its just words and it's not rational to be offended. But our societal norm is still that these words are not polite, and for many people there is a strong association with them and anger and aggression so people can feel very uncomfortable. Making others uncomfortable by doing something considered impolite is anti social.

JenniferBarkley · 21/06/2022 09:48

I'm Irish so I do have a culturally different attitude to swearing (i.e. I use it like punctuation Grin) but for me it would be more about the tone than the actual words.

Lonelycrab · 21/06/2022 09:56

I’ve got a friend who emigrated to NZ a decade or so back- he’s the same. Everything is facking this facking that. I have to remind him to button it if ds is within earshot when we’re FaceTiming.

BunnyMum2000 · 21/06/2022 10:10

5128gap · 21/06/2022 09:43

Yup. All the cool sweary people will say its just words and it's not rational to be offended. But our societal norm is still that these words are not polite, and for many people there is a strong association with them and anger and aggression so people can feel very uncomfortable. Making others uncomfortable by doing something considered impolite is anti social.

Perfect explanation!

We have neighbours for whom the F and C words seem to be part of their morning greeting ( and they are the aggressive violent types), so I definitely associate swearing with aggression and find it uncomfortable to be around.

HorribleHerstory · 21/06/2022 10:16

There are lots of people living close to me like this. I marvel at it tbh, it’s just absolutely normal parlance for them. It does sometimes make me uncomfortable.

it astonishes me that a drawn out ‘fucckkiiin….’ has replaced ‘errrr’ or umm between words if they aren’t sure of the next one or are hesitant in their speech.

id love to study it

SVRT19674 · 21/06/2022 10:23

I had a Danish friend years ago who was taught English by people who used facking like an adverb, an adjective, a verb, a noun in every single phrase. I had to tell him it sounded disgusting as I surmised he didn´t realise as it wasn´t his native language. I am not averse to a swear word to express anger or horror or distasteful surprise but not as a constant barrage.

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Bionic79 · 21/06/2022 18:43

It’s been quite unreal.

I swear but not to this level and never in public so loud.

Having my coffee and I hear about the size of some guys c**k 😣 just too much in a shared garden 😳

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