To expect my stepmother NOT to come round at 7.30pm with presents?

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They are belated christmas pressies from my brother who is in the army.

I am grateful for them. they are lovely and ds loves them. however to visit at 7.30 when ds is just going to bed, thrust these lovly wrapped presents at him, open them, play with him for just long enough to wake him up and excite him then leave is just ridiculous. he didnt go to bed til 10pm and woke up in a foul mood.

i know i sound petty and ungrateful, i just dont undestand why someone with 3 kids herself and 3 step children would do this

Sorry but I think YABU.

Why didn't you hide them till today?

Maybe it was the only time she could come round - having said that, she could have checked with you first.

YABU.

It is one late night. Put him to bed early tonight and he will be fine tomorrow.

we live in a bungalow so as soon as she rang the doorbell ds was up and came out of his room, and she handed the presents straight to him

lissie I think you're lovely but on this occasion, yabu sorry

ok. it was just frustrating, he's not a great sleeper anyway..

I can see where you are coming from
Is she very busy?
It would have been polite to ring and maybe arrange a weekend day to come

does she know your ds goes to bed at that time? maybe she thought he went to bed later?

I can understand why you're frustrated, but as a 1 off I don't think it's too bad and I don't think she would have thought through the impact and how he would have woken up grumpy today etc...

(having said that, I do think she should have made a quick call to check with you first).

she and my dad run their own business, but she is never there (dh works for them)

she knows that he goes to bed at 7.30/7.45 and what a bad sleeper he is. i know i sound ungrateful, i just wish she'd called first or come in the day (she was off all day) she knew we were in!

that sounds like i dont like her, i really really do. im just frustrated.

Next time you are speaking with her mention in passing that he was so excited by the pressies that you couldn't get him to sleep until 10pm. Moan a bit about how cranky he was next day.

i would just say to her in future could you come in the daytime cos he took so long to get to sleep.

thanks, shall do as mymama says!