To think this is cheeky?

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Offered to help a friend by going with her to help drop off items the night before for a surprise party for her boyfriend. She agreed, date set.

I saw her about a week ago and she didn’t mention me helping her but said “his sister is coming with me the night before to help me bring everything over to the venue” Fine. I then made other plans.

She asked me today if I was still helping, I apologised that I now couldn’t as I’d made plans and thought his sister was helping her. Turns out his sister has since changed her mind and doesn’t want to help.

Aibu to think it’s a bit cheeky she took my offer of help, then decided to use someone else but then thinks it’s ok to assume that I will still help?

You said you’d help. You didn’t cancel. Then you didn’t help. So YABU. Yes she said his sister was helping but I’d assume that meant there’d be three of you.

She didn't actually say she didn't want you to help though did she?

No, I don't think she was being cheeky. Strange you think she was. I wouldn't find it cheeky at all.

Bit weird you didn’t ask at the time if she still needed your help.

Yeah you're the one who let her down here

Did she decide to use someone else though? She probably thought she'd have both of you to help if you didn't explicitly say you were no longer coming?

Unless she said ‘I no longer need your help as x is helping instead’ then yabu. It sounds like she recruited another pair of hands who then cancelled, and now you’ve let her down too.

No because it clearly wasn’t a 3 people job and she said I’ll see you on the date of the party

Plus she confirmed to me that she asked me just now because his sister had cancelled on her.

I would have assumed sister was helping as well as you not instead of.

If she told you her sister was helping and she would see you on the day of the party I can see how you thought you weren't needed but I think I would have clarified at the time she said her sister was helping her.

So you didn't say to her that you wouldn't be coming anymore and now confused as to why she thought you were coming? Why didn't you ask, "does that mean you don't need me any more?" Why do people not just talk to each other?

Can't two people help? Not sure why you assumed she no longer needed help.

When she said 'his sister is coming' I'd have said 'so do you still want me to help?'