Don't feel the same about husband since having baby

[Strawberryshortcake28]

Me and my husband have been together ten years and just had our first DD since her birth I don't feel the same about my husband

Things that I tolerated before Ie his moaning or mood swings I can't tolerate anymore . I no longer find him funny or enjoy his company. I find myself not wanting to please him any more ie to go to his favourite places to eat /holidays.
It has caused huge issues to the point where I get excited fantasizing about other people .I don't want to sleep with him at all though despite having a sex drive he is attractive I'm not attracted to him anymore .

I love being a mum and am loving every day of my maternity leave spending time with my little girl she genuinely makes me so happy. Mentally I think I'm.in a good place have got back in shape quickly and exercise regularly. I find myself taking her out every day to avoid him as he is wfh so I don't think I am suffering postnatal depression .

Did anyone else experience this ?

If I'm being completely honest I had an emotional affair last year with a married man I met online I fell head over heels for him but we never met and it ended when I got pregnant . We talked for hours and hours on the phone for over a year . Though I am over him now and know there's is no possibility of anything happening with this man it has made me think about what life could be If I met someone like him or what a different relationship could look like

Has anyone else experienced this after giving birth or am I just caught up in a fantasy ? I'm 32 I know how hard it would be to meet someone else

It’s not unusual to feel as you do after having a baby, however your previous EA changes things.
You will both change when becoming parents , plus baby comes first, so it doesn’t sound good when you add in the EA.
Take the time to see if things change, but I sustenance won’t.

With all due kindness, it's not after the baby though is it. There was clearly something massively wrong prior if you've been having an emotional affair

Hi yes there were issues during the lockdown my husband list his job and became depressed we were struggling to convince which put massive pressure on the relationship the ea was a shoulder to cry on and it escalated.
Now he is in a good job and we have our miracle baby but I'm completely unattached to him

You'd already signed out of your relationship before you got pregnant, it wasn't going to get any better with a baby in the mix.

This is a post EA slump not a post baby slump. You need to spend some time really reflecting on why it happened in the first place and then either work on those issues or leave.

It isn’t really anything to do with giving birth though is it since you had an affair before.
Does your husband know about this?
It sounds like you really need to tell him and end it, you don’t love him, you don’t even like him and your main concern is how quickly you would or wouldn’t meet someone else.