To be fed up people not paying back?

[fairycakes1234]

If someone paid for your childs activities or a summer camp, would you immediately offer to give money back or would you see no harm in leaving it for a while. For me, I always revolut or give cash asap, for some reason this never happens me. I paid for my daughters friend for dancing, it was 150 euro, i was told thanks a mil and ill give it to you soon. A month later still nothing so now i have to be like a beggar and text her for it, another parent asked me to book a place for her son as they were both doing same activity, and this time i straight away booked and and sent her a text saying she could revolut and she just replied with thanks so much but no mention of the money. I know she will give it eventually but why do people do this? I dont know if I'm seen as a soft touch or am i reading too much into this. Do you immediately pay someone if they book something?

Why on earth did you pay out €150 for someone else's kid?!

I would just stop booking things for other people unless they send you the money first

Send her your bank details.

Stop doing this for people, tell them you're not booking stuff anymore as you have to chase dle the money. Or tell them to pay you first.

Why are you doing this in the first place? I hook my own child's camp but I wouldn't book a place for anyone else. They're taking the piss but you're letting them.

You must be rich. Wouldn't even do that for someone that came out the same fanny as me.

I told parent i was booking the camp and because i had all the details and had registered she asked would i mind booking her child, they are good friends, i honestly thought she would pay it back straight away but no. I suppose I find it hard to say no, but yet i would never ask someone to do this for me, suppose i was just asking do people do this and think its not a big deal or is it just the people i seem to associate with.

Stop paying for other peoples shit?

thats funny and no, nowhere near rich!!

I always pay back instantly when someone has booked something for a group activity. It’s bloody rude not to and I know if I don’t do it as soon as I’m told it’s been booked I’m liable to forget so I do it ASAP. And when I say that, I mean there and then.
When I book things for other people, again things like tickets to something we are going to as a group, I will let everyone know when it’s been booked and include my bank details. Generally people are prompt about paying.
stop booking things for other people if they are rubbish about paying back, you shouldn’t have to chase as you’ve done them a favour but you are!

I’d pay back straight away. If I forgot I wouldn’t mind being reminded. I guess in your situation I’d probably take this as a lesson learned not to pay for someone else’s kid. I’d probably keep asking tbh.

If someone had said that to me I would have said "Of course. Send me the money and when it's in my account I will sort it out." If she wanted the place badly enough she would have sent it straight away. She has the place now so she doesn't care that you have paid for it and she hasn't.
Never, ever pay anything for anyone ever. They will either take forever to pay you back or you will never see the money. If you push for repayment you will be accused of hassling....bullying ..."oh my god stop asking I'll pay you back okaaaaay" blah blah.

Stop and next time say sorry I can’t unless you give me the money up front as the last few times I have had to wait to get paid back and I’m not a bank lol!

Cancel it and reclaim the money. Tell the parent sorry but you need the money back.

I learned the hard way never to book stuff for others unless they’ve already sent the money. I send them a message saying ‘Pop me a text when you’ve pinged the money over and I’ll book it ASAP’.

If I owed someone £150 I’d not sleep at night.

I don't lend people money and I don't borrow either. But if I did do that I would give the money straight away as my conscience wouldn't let me leave it. But generally If I can't afford it I don't get it and these people are taking the piss out of you. Start saying no OP. This is coming from a good place

I haven't been in that situation but keep reminding her. My dsis booked us all theatre tickets, I meant to send the money straight away but the app (update) was doing something that night. Completely forgot after that. She text about a week later asking for it, I apologised and sent the money straight away. Maybe she genuinely forgot? In general though apart from close friends/ family I would want the money first.

YANBU. I’d transfer immediately. Next time, just say “Great - could you transfer me the money and then I’ll book.” The key being and then.

You need to use their money to pay, so if they don’t pay and ask why you’ve not booked just say in a puzzled voice, “but you’ve not sent me the money to pay for it.” You are kindly offering to BOOK for then not fund their kids and activities from your own pocket until they can be arsed to repay you, the cheeky fuckers.

Why on earth are you bank rolling people in the first place?
This isn't standard or normal in any of my social circle at work, family, friends, clubs etc.

You say "great send me the money and I'll book it for you if it's there by 3pm on Tuesday, if not you'll need to sort yourself".

Is it possible that people think you don't care about the money since you're being so blasé about it to begin with? Either that or you know a lot of piss takers.

Stop doing it basically.

If I pay for something for someone else's kid, through my own choice, I don't expect the money back. If someone asks me to book something for their kid, I'll get the money in advance.

Also if I owe someone money I'll pay it asap but have an awful memory so will ask them to remind me if I haven't done it by such a time.

There’s no reason why they can’t transfer you the money at the same time as you have the initial conversation agreeing to book for them. Ask for it at that point and don’t book for them without it.

For the people who owe you money send a message saying hey just a reminder about that money you owe me, please pay it by 8pm tonight. Thanks. A deadline can make people stop thinking they will do it later and never getting to it

Lesson learnt. Stop booking things for other people's kids.

Just send a text with your bank details & ask them to pay the money in asap please.

This doesn't happen to me, thank god as I would find it very difficult to ask for the money.