To have said no! Or am I the bad guy?

[Dogggg]

My stepkids mother is going on holiday in two weeks and has asked DH if we can have her dog. DSD is with us while she goes.

I've said absolutely not. Mainly because I'll be the one expected to do everything and I'm just not interested, our house feels packed enough as it is with all of us and our own pets.

I work part time from home and the other days I look after our young toddler so everything will likely fall to me and it's a very young and energetic breed.

Also we already have our own dog who's very chilled and easy so the complete opposite and a cat.

She's also not always been the nicest and often still isn't so I've not really any desire to help her.

DSD and DH making me feel guilty though even though it would be me they are basically expecting to look after it all day for 10 days.

Why she's left it this late to sort is beyond me but its her all over.

She's done this on purpose knowing that you will be backed into it, especially by dsd. Stick to your guns. Yanbu at all.

YADNBU ! Don't back down. You have no obligation - make her pay for a kennel.

It's her problem for not sorting it. She probably doesn't want to pay the kennel fees and has left it to the last minute to make it awkward for you to say no. IF you do end up saying yes, explain under no circumstances that you'll be the one looking after it, and they have to do all the feeds, walks poop pick ups etc.

YANBU at all OP.
She's a complete cheeky fucker.
Stand your ground.

YANBU ! Please stick to your guns with this, as someone who knows !
Years ago, when I first got with DH and his son stayed with us at weekends, he used to bring his dog too. It scared our cat, sht in the house, peed up the curtains AND I had to sleep on the settee with the bl*dy thing or it would whine all night 😂Do it for me !!!

Personally I'd rather have the dog than the child so it would be a hard yes to it staying.

I just don't even know how this would work. DH works out of the house and DSD is at school so it would inevitably be me that would be stuck with it all day.

I'll suggest it's one or the other then 🤣🤣🤣

No chance. It’s not your dog. If you’re DH isn’t around to help and do it, why should you? Most people happily say yes to stuff when it doesn’t affect them.

Thanks. I shall just ignore all guilt tripping then!

Don’t be amazed if the dog just appears, but be prepared to kick off big time if it does.

We’re having my bil’s dog for 2 weeks in July but he’s the same breed, has stayed a couple of times before and is well-behaved. I have 2 under one and an older boy, so it should be fine. I don’t see why you should get lumbered with the ex’s dog, tho, she should have organised this before now!

I'd say absolutely not. You don't know how it will react to your toddler/dog/cat. After all the horror stories of children being bitten and killed by seemingly lovely family pets, it would be a flat out no to the dog.

There was a poster with a similar thread a few years ago. The DSC was a teenager and the ex expected the poster to either look after the dog or facilitate a massive round trip for the DC to walk the poor dog.

YANBU at all!

No, think of the poor cat who will be scared!

Tell your DH that you will only agree to it if he takes a week's annual leave to look after the dog. Make sure you say it in front of your DSD so she turns any guilt tripping onto him 😜🤣

Seriously though YANBU

I'd be more pissed off at DH for entertaining this the guilt tripping you than her for asking to be honest. What a brass neck! Does he really have no clue what you already deal with on a day to day basis?? Bloody idiot.
Are you really supposed to GAF if his ex isn't pleased or can't afford kennels or whatever?

If you do end up with it ask for it's vet card incase of emergency.. Then drop ddog and vaccination card at the local kennels. Ex can pay when she picks it up.
There was a similar thread last year.. The op made sure the ddog stayed at the exes and dh and the dsc went over twice a day and fed it etc. Suggest this as a compromise...

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4331756-CF-DSD-DSDs-mum-and-dog?reply=110301461

Have husband walk the dog before work and the kid after school. Yes you are home with the dog but mine just snooze away - if the dog is a pita then it's kennels.