AIBU-Teen always contacting to ask to do things with friends on loudspeaker

[despondentatwork]

I'm so irritated with my teen. She's just the usual-sleeps until lunchtime unless dragged out of bed. Helps begrudgingly if asked. Organises work shifts without checking if I can take her. Has hardly done a tap for her GCSEs. She's just phoned me as all her friends are going to the beach after finishing exams (OK-I get it-it's exciting).
But;
a. she's missed her bus, so I'm already doing an extra run to collect her.
b. she has no clothes to get changed into-she's in her school uniform.
c. I have a huge course deadline she's well aware of-her siblings are missing their hobbies tonight so I can meet it.
d. her room is a disgusting tip-I went in earlier to open her windows as she slept in this morning and almost missed her bus (TO her exam) and Knew she didn't have time.
e. last time I let her do this she drank alcohol despite promising me she wouldn't
AIBU saying a flat no despite it being sunny and last day of exams? (I already have!!).

Are you in Brighton?

Misses the point

Is there a bus she can get, tell her no

The only issue here for me is the alcohol. The rest is just age appropriate (albeit irritating) behaviour.

I know it's annoying isn't it. Teenagers are gene so entitled and expect us as the mum taxi to be at there beck and call.

Sorry don't know where the "gene" word came from 🤦‍♀️🤣

Torn on this one as it’s all quite exceptional circumstances…

I would on the proviso that she makes good on some family input over the weekend for a bit?

If she can get herself there, and get herself back, then it's not your problem. If she can't, then she can't go. Pretty simple really. The always on speaker things I would refuse to do, she either speaks to you privately or you don't speak.

The aclcohol I would be extremely cross about though.

Mine knows not to ask me in front of others - my answer is always "don't ask me in front of other people"

I can see why your annoyed but I'd still probably let her go.
Hanging out with friends after exams is what teenagers should be doing.
DC2 missed out on this due to lockdown and was devastated so maybe I'm just being soft.

The aclcohol I would be extremely cross about though

Really? At sixteen? God how the world has changed!

It wouldn't bother me, it's a one off and my son did a similar thing (at the country park as we aren't near a beach). He drank alcohol but we've never banned it at any age, so he didn't get ridiculously drunk like a couple of his friends (prefers cider to vodka). I would insist on getting the room sorted though when it's all over.

Yanbu because you also have important stuff to do and it’s not always about teen dc.

she needs to take responsibility to get herself to her social life. It’s not a good example to expect dp to be at beck and call and subservient to them.