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AIBU to accept that I'm average and not rail against it?

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AcceptanceNotEsteem · 19/06/2022 22:05

Or should I keep trying to be a better version of myself until retirement.

What does it even mean?
I don't have a degree and I'm in my 50s. The job I have now is secure and there is the possibility of going up a grade but I've been unsuccessful in that attempt three times.

I have some strong friendships but they don't know each other so it's not like I'm part of a strong group. They all have better jobs and are mostly married (Happily) I don't compare myself to them in a way that makes me resentful, far from it. It's just like a constant yardstick.

I took my driving test about 4 times. I eventually passed. It was really hard and expensive. I spent so much money and now I still go everywhere on the bus which according to some mumsnet-ters is a disability to be ashamed of. But I feel like a lot of the normal things that people take for granted are harder for me.

When I try to think of my achievements I'm really struggling and I come up stuff that isn't BAD rather than stuff that is GOOD. Like I'm not a gambler, I'm not in debt, I don't drink, not addicted to anything, not unemployed. The only things I can find to make me proud of myself are the failings I don't have.

I can't think of anything that is really definitely an achievement that I could really lay claim to. But I'm content. I honestly am content. I just keep draining myself trying hard and getting nowhere. I want to just accept my average level of achievement.

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ditavonteesed · 20/06/2022 07:12

Content is literally the life goal everyone is aiming for. You have achieved that you are therefore amazing. Driving is bad for the planet anyway so well done on taking public transport. Plus who cares if you get where you want. Like you said yourself your good with money, have a diverse range of friends. I think you have won at life there. Nothing average going on.

AcceptanceNotEsteem · 20/06/2022 07:15

@MangoBiscuit yes the thoughts of a much tidier house does spark more joy than climbing the ranks Grin

What I want and what I should want, different things.

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