AWBU to not really bother with Father’s Day / Mother’s Day?

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As per the title really - DH and I just really can’t be arsed to do anything. Obviously we get a card but don’t get presents for each other (DC too young to get themselves!)
We treat each other to a family breakfast a few weeks after the event (too busy on the actual day) but that’s it. This year DC went to my mums for the weekend so we could have some time off (rare occurrence at DH request!)
We do get our own parents something small from the grandkids - it’s more that we both just feel it’s getting very materialistic and would rather not really celebrate.

Is anyone else the same?

Do what you like.
I don't think many people make a big fuss over fathers day. We get a card and a present costing about £10. Kids make a card or picture for dad. I sometimes do a cooked breakfast for DH.

Just to be clear I have nothing against anyone else celebrating in any way they choose - it’s just not for us. Glad to see some others feel the same way.
We are definitely not joyless - we just prefer to spread fun things out through the year!

Well unless mother's day, father's day, your wedding anniversary, birthdays etc are all on the same day that's exactly what other people do.

DP got a £5 present that DD3 picked and a card from DCs. He made us all a Sunday roast, but because it was Sunday, not because it was Father's Day.

I do make more effort for my own dad to be fair.

You do more than we do!

Until DC were old enough to make cards at schools / playgroups there was no card. What they bring home from school is the sum total of our Mothers / Fathers Days. DH and I had pre-agreed that we weren’t going to “celebrate” these days when I was pregnant which remains a relief!!

We did a bacon sandwich in bed for my husband and I helped the children make him a card. We usually get token presents that we need/want anyway. Socks this year. For Mother’s Day I got a book. Nothing too commercial but the children do enjoy marking the occasion.

I always treat myself to something on Father's Day (and Valentines- no man shouldn't mean no treats) this year it was a wallpaper steamer/stripper!

I find fuss, big events and all their build-up, and gift buying all stressful and joyless. My DH is the same. But I would never be rude about someone who enjoys them. Different strokes for different folks.

We don't bother either!

I find it all a bit much.

we don't and this year is the first year we haven't bothered with my father either.
it was nice the first fathers day and by the second fathers day I was like 'oh this is an extra expense we don't need'
don't really do birthdays for ne and dh either and I wish everyone would just calm down with the present buying.
it's definitely an obligation now and some months when we are skint I'm just so pushed off I have to explain to my brother or sister or parents instead of keeping it private.

I hate buying Xmas gifts for adults too.
I don't mind children because they are growing and always need something new but all of my children still have money from their birthdays and Christmas last year because there isn't that much they need and that much we can store.

everything is commercialised and I resent having to buy presents for adults to make them feel special when they can buy what they like anyway and I'd they ready have everything they need.
I can never think of anything. and of I can it's probably something they already have.

So I've started with Consumables books and plants. (depending on who the gift is for my dad will get nice beers for example, sister a book, grandad gets plants, mum gets food that she never gets a bite of)

What really got me to think 'fuck this' was my siblings moving out and not keeping things I'd bought them. feels liberating having a concrete reason to not pile them up with shit!