Advice needed- feel so sad

[Poppyfields9]

I am seeing a man and I have feelings for him. Very deep feelings. He is 100% emotionally unavailable and for him it’s just sex.

When I am with him he looks at photos of other women, talks about his sexual past, I think messages other women whilst I am there.

I don’t think he knows I have feelings for him. Maybe he can tell, I’m not sure. But whenever he mentions other women or things he has got up too, my heart just drops. How can I find a way to end things. I’m finding it really hard to let go of this. I have been in tears all day as I feel really emotionally attached but I know he is not.

Go and get an STI test and bar him.

Why on earth do you have feelings for him? He sounds like a bellend.

And look at some therapy for yourself. There is no way this is an attractive partner option and something here is making you feel something for an absolute dickhead when most wouldn't give him a second look.

Put yourself first and work through why you would choose someone like this - who is not worth 2 seconds of your time.

Thank you. I don’t know why I’m putting myself through this. I keep telling myself it’s the last time but then I go and see him again. It hurts. A lot. I have to pretend that it doesn’t bother me when I’m there but it really does. I am letting myself be used and getting my heart trampled on at the same time yet I can’t pull away

How can you have feelings for someone who treats you so badly? It’s a genuine question. What is it about him that makes you love him? I can’t imagine a situation where I could have any sort of positive feelings for someone who made me feel so awful. If he’s not making you feel amazing, then he doesn’t deserve any of your care and feelings.

Bin him off and find someone who thinks you’re the centre of the universe.

He seems like a nasty human. OP, please take care of yourself and don't let him use you. It can be hard but, believe him if he says he is emotionally unavailable.

Have you ever had therapy to work on confidence and possible attachment issues?