Help me get organised

[elm26]

I am at a point where I'm depressed on top of my depression because of how unorganised I am.

I cannot focus on anything, can't watch tv, can't read. I am driving myself mad.

I can't even reply to a simple text, I forget.

I feel like I'm just existing at this point.

Bills get forgotten, I can't organise my money, if I order clothes and don't like them/don't fit, they sit in my wardrobe because I can't deal with the thought of sending them back.

I find it so hard to concentrate on anything, my mind goes at 1000mph, I need sleeping tablets to sleep, too much noise sends me spiralling into anxiety.

Drs shrug this off and put it down to my diagnosis of depression and anxiety.

Posted too quick.

Even my phone stresses me out, 14,000 photos, hundreds of unread emails.

All I do is let the days go by and comfort myself by eating (I'm the heaviest I've ever been), I'm so unhappy and stressed.

I imagine in place you're at it's all so overwhelming that you feel like there's no point in trying.

Not true. Small steps can build into big changes & small efforts are good ones.

14k Photos on your phone : only matters if you want to organise them or you're running out of space. Is either the issue?

Do you have clothes to wear? Don't order more.

Wasn't there a whole MN thread about people (contentedly) with hundreds of unread emails.

Paying your bills matters. I'd suggest tackle that. You can do this.

Step 1: Get a (massive) piece of paper and divide it into three columns. Label the columns in order of priority: ‘High’ ‘Medium’ ‘Low’.

Step 2: Dump every single chore or worry on it (keep it somewhere accessible so you can add to it as you remember things).

Step 3: Once a week, or every other day, or every day (whatever you can realistically manage) tackle ONE job from the ‘High’ column. You can do more after from any column if you’re feeling motivated but all you need to do is that one.

Step 4: Celebrate! Reward yourself for crossing something off your list!

(Hint: The very first task is to write the list, so you’ll be able to reward yourself almost immediately.)

Get yourself the TeamTOMM organised mum method app. It’s a one off £5 which is worth it for the organised Christmas thingy alone!

You cannot do everything at once . I agree with other posters . Make some lists.

Put bills into order and go through them in order of priority. Even 1 or 2 a day is progress .

If you cannot send clothes back well - you still owe the money so check the dates and if you can send the ones back you can within date do it if not - you are no worse off than you are now ( but don't order any more )

Phone photos etc I would not worry about at the moment

I think other posters have given you good ideas. Important bills - try to do , photos , well that's a different issue , and don't order anything else until you have sorted out what you have already ordered

Sorry if that does not help but just saying what some others have.

I wish you well x

Start listening to the podcast 'a slob comes clean'. Start at episode 1. Listen and learn. And do what she says. All will eventually be well

I am like you OP. But I am developing some strategies to help me.
I make lists for everyday tasks , pen and paper is my best friend. My brain works better if I see it in writing.
Prepare things before hand.
Yesterday I had to write an important email which I didn't want to do .
So, the day before I did some drafting, only 4/5 lines but that helped me enormously bc when I sat down to write the dreaded email ,it didn't feel like a mammut task amymore. Also I wrote the email first thing so everything I did afterwards was a bonus.
If you need to call the gas company, find a letter/email with their phone number and your details on day 1 and on day 2 make the call. Aim for progress not perfection.

I use time , I give myself times to complete a task. So let's say that I have to file some paperwork , I only going to give myself only 10 min for that and see how it goes. On those 10 min I don't do anything but. This applies to anything from cleaning a space, decluttering, tyding up....
Another tool I use is the 20/80 rule, so do the 20 per cent work that would impact the 80 per cent. This saved my sanity when I had two under 3, was working from home and had some health issues.
House is a mess, so I do my 20 ( put a load of laundry, do my dishes and take rubbish/recycling out) . House looks 80 per cent better. You just need to decide what is your 20.
Let's say your bedroom is a mess, you make your bed ( that's your 20) and your bedroom will look 80 per cent better. It really works.
When I am waiting for sthg, children at school, docs appointment I use that time to clear my phone of wanted pics, files etc.
I am far from being an organised house goddess but the above has helped me enormously , hope it can help you too.