to be hurt

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ok I have been broody for baby number 2 for a few months and decided that it was time to talk to DP about the situatuion, so last month I raised the subject of starting to TTC and DP agreed that we could start trying (DS is 18 months)
I had been getting excited and ready and DP was looking at prams and saying "lets get this one"
Then we get to prime BD time and I could tell that DP was erm holding back during the deed (sorry tmi)
So I said to him "you dont really want to have a 2nd do you?"
and he said no not yet
Im a little upset that we cant start straight away and kinda expected him to say he wanted to wait when I raised the subject but im hurt that he "led me on" for a month
He said that he agreed to make me happy-but he cant seem to understand that he has really hurt me by not being honest
We have now agreed to start trying in august but I just feel really hurt and a bit worried that when august comes he will change his mind again
AIBU to feel like this

no, yanbu to feel hurt. I would too, but at least he's being honest with you now (better late than never, I suppose). Tell him how you feel and how worried you are about him doing it again in August and see what he says.

If it makes you feel any better, somebody I sort of know is planning to have the snip and not tell his wife, who is hoping for a 3rd baby i'm horrified but keeping my nose OUT.

He won;t be able to hide the snip from his wife unless he books a 2 week holiday away from her at the same time- it all gets terribly bruised and requires bandaging (of sorts)..... What an idiot!

ready- what would be different about August? Sounds like you need a bit of a heart to heart (but I'd be careful about putting too much pressure on him as it tends to make people even more determined not to iyswim).

Good. I'm glad. I hope the Doc tells him taht and he reconsiders. If not, I might punch him in the cock

"No darling I know it's bruised but I haven't had a vasectomy. MamaG punched me in the cock"

BACK TO OP (sorry ready )

lol at "bandageing", mental picture not nice!!!!

I hope the doctor doesn't tell him and he has to explain to his wife why his nuts are purple and he can't walk!

he wants to wait until august so that when the new baby arrives DS would start to quailfy for the free nursery sessions.
I understand the reasons I just feel hurt that for a whole month he left me to get excited and even joined in with the pram talk-it feels as though he was messing with my head cos he had no intention of following through (scuse the pun lol)

at that bloke!
DP wont ever consider a snip but I think I would know if he got one!!

you would if the bruising was like this (note- do not click if squeamish)

aw ready, it does sound sensible. and the prams will still be for sale in august

yurt, if thats a cock, I can't click on it, work would block it and KNOW I'd tried to look

PMSL - they couldn't possibly imagine you were looking at it for any reason other than 'research' though.

He hasn't got much girth, has he