Tomorrow is going to be all about my husband who really is an amazing dad to our 2 young children, and also we’re dropping off some pressies at my FIL’s house (they’re still on holiday but he can open them as soon as he gets back) as FIL is caring, shows interest, clearly genuinely loves us (me and husband) and our kids. So I’m perfectly happy saying to husband and FIL, thank you for being great father figures and thanks for their love. I have experienced love from them that I never experienced growing up.
But obviously I need to say happy Father’s Day to my own dad. And this is where I’m struggling. While maybe he did love me as a kid, he never said so. He divorced my mum when I was a teen and he remarried surprisingly quickly and gained a stepdaughter. That girl has now fully been the apple of his eye for the last 18 years. Basically he doesn’t show an interest in me or my children, unless I initiate it ie sending him a pic, or sending a message to say hi (read: desperately seeking attention/love).
So would you struggle with this or just suck it up and send the bloody card? (Obv I haven’t actually posted it cos I’m too disorganised so he’ll get it late anyway 🤦♀️)
YABU: Of course you have to send a Father’s Day card to your own bloody dad no matter what you think of him
YANBU: No don’t send him a card, don’t try to pretend things you do / don’t feel