To be upset that my partner was assaulted?

[Nadia1981]

He's in a job where violence is an occupational hazard, unfortunately. He's been punched in the face today and he's trying to be brave about it but I can tell he's quite shaken up. He has a bust lip and bruised face. AIBU to be angry and upset at his stupid job that puts him in these situations? 🙁

You're not being unreasonable but it is his choice to have a job in that kind of environment whereby a physical assault is a risk.

It is his choice, and he loves it most of the time. He's never been assaulted before though. It's just shocked us both.

Of course you're not unreasonable to be upset. My partner and I both work in environments where serious physical assault is a very real risk, and happens regularly, and we both worry about each other. I was assaulted in October and my partner was very upset (and furious), but unfortunately its a known risk.

I hope your DP is not too badly hurt, and that he recovers quickly.

How will his work be supportive?

They've given him the day off tomorrow but beyond that I'm not sure what they will do. My partner will have to write up what happened when he gets back and have it officially recorded etc.

I hope you can both have a quiet day tomorrow just caring for each other. You are both in shock so take care,x

It’s shit. People who work in these types of roles get a lot of shit thrown at them for crap pay. My DH was racially abused in the most vile way yesterday. He has to pretty much take it on the chin because of his role. Feel bloody sick he had to listen to that. Sorry about your partner.

You can't possibly be unreasonable.