DD's friend who she met at secondary school has ADHD;she's a lovely girl but quite full on;her younger sister has ASD.
Having two kids with additional needs is full on and hard;I completely understand;I have 2 children with ASD myself;one is in the middle of her GCSES and is abit stressed at the moment which has aggravated her mood slightly and my youngest has a very high level of needs;when not at school he's either with me or another family member and at school he's with a full time carer.
My DD mentioned at the start of this post also has a chronic health condition.I also have a forth child.I have my hands full.
DH is working away this weekend so I'm on my own this weekend.
DD asked if her friend could stay over last night but I wasn't keen;my DD has really campaigned for her friend to stay and then went and asked my DH instead of me (abit naughty I know) --knowing dad is a pushover and probably doesn't care as he's not here right now.
I've consoled myself with the fact the two girls have a joint activity that take themselves to on the bus on a Saturday morning;I figured the friend would go gone afterwards but no said friend came back with DD and is still here.Apparently mum will collect en route home from work about 7ish.
This has happened before with DD's friend coming here after the morning activity and staying until mum collects enroute home from work.
Anyway the friend has let something slip to my two DD's which my older DD told me earlier that has saddened me but at the same time left me fuming.
DD's friends mum had to work really late night and was on shift early today;something to do with staff training;DD's friends dad apparently refuses to look after both his children with additional needs when his wife works late like last night or Saturdays.
Apparently he can't cope alone with both and is very shouty.
So it looks as though I'm providing free childcare for DD's friends parents.I feel taken advantage of and that's it wholly unacceptable knowing I have 3 children with various needs of their own.
Why should I provide childcare for a man who doesn't want to look after both of his children on his own;it's obviously fine for his wife to do do or for someone else to do it but not him.
I will be saying no in future to DD's friend coming over as I'm not an unpaid babysitting service.