"We have became good friends" or is this some kind of EA?

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And what define Emotional Affairs? How many warning signs can you tick? So confused about the notion of meaning.
Aibu to think there is not such a thing? You fancy, have a special bond with someone outside your spouse/partner or not. Full stop.

I think this article sums it up well:
"How an emotional affair differs from a platonic friendship:

• Intimate information is shared


• The friendship is kept secret


• There is (mutual, my addition) sexual attraction"

https://www.verywellmind.com/emotional-affairs-and-infidelity-2303091

Yep.

Your post is unclear OP but it is not reasonable to stop your partner having female friendships unless they appear to cross these lines.

I think often relationships are already on the rocks a bit and muddling along rather than being at stage of realising unhappy enough to even be considering leaving, wanting an affair. I say this as while I found people attractive I didn't have crushes when I was happy with partner and unlikely to be drawn into seeing someone that way even if they maybe flirting.
I had some pretty crazy, intense crushes and possibly straying close to EA territory when I wasn't really getting my needs fulfilled in relationship, not so much sex more just feeling lonely lacking intimacy of attention, bonding conversations, feeling attractive/wanted so was quite easy to respond more to people that were perhaps also seeking this subconsciously. Initially it does feel like friends but you can easily start bonding in EA way If both lacking appropriate boundaries to keep it in check.

I have known people do some pretty crazy things like emigrate and marry someone they had EA with online.

Thank you ladies for the link and opinions.

#ScattyHattie thank you! Very detailed explanation and examples.

Food for thought to be honest...I'm not very good managing those sort of blurry lines friendships...