To think I'll never get over this shame?

[30notflirty]

It's my 30th today. Last night had a family get together at my mums as our with friends tonight. A few of my friends were there last night though, lovely night, lovely food. I drank too much wine and then started crying saying no one had made any effort, when my mum said I was just crying because I'd had too much wine I ended up walking out of my mums house shouting, 'I don't even like macaroons!' which were on the cake she had made for me.

I got a taxi home and my friend jumped in where I continued to cry but remained adamant that I was stone cold sober - I really believed I was. I got home and watched desperate housewives and crashed out.

I have now awoken and realise I was drunk - very drunk. With a sore head and absolute horror and embarrassment at what I'm going to say to my mum for my behaviour, she must think I am a spoiled brat. My friends and I are going for breakfast this morning and they were there last night and I'm so embarrassed I don't want to go.

I have a full on day ahead and honestly just want to stay in bed away from everyone. Will this shame subside?

I personally don't understand why people like them. They're just really boring!

But yes if you want to go ahead and bring up this thread when a wife is talking about her drunken dh saying vile things to her

then do go ahead

and I hope i get to see responses!

Op just said she didn't like macaroons... This situation isn't similar.

People are being so weird about this.. I don't know anyone that hasn't had one too many and made a fool of themselves. Nobody was violent, nobody got hurt (her mum perhaps a slightly affronted 🤣), it's really no big deal.

Apologise , hold your hands up and take the piss taking you're gonna get today... Believe me I've done worse happy birthday x

As someone who has drunk too much, embarrassed themselves, and woken up with the fear the following day, I can totally relate to how you're feeling. But trust me when I say it could have been much worse.

Apologise to your mum, go for breakfast with your friends, and accept the ribbing you'll inevitably get on the chin.

In months/years to come you'll probably find 'I don't even like macaroons!' becomes an amusing little in joke amongst you and your friends 😉

I’ve not read anything that makes me think she was abusive. More like a rude, childish tantrum.
Nothing unforgivable. No reason to call the lawyers.

I love the coconut ones.
I’ve no time for the dusty rainbow turd ones though

Are you saying that the OP flouncing telling her mum she doesn't like Macaroons is comparable to an abusive husband? If she'd smacked someone then surely but just because she got pissed and acted spoilt and silly doesn't mean any more than that!

I hope you had a good brunch and your mum has replied.

It's awful waking up after you've made an arse of yourself but you've done the right thing facing it today.

I cannot drink wine anymore. Makes me absolutely wasted and fucks up my mental health. Gin and beer are luckily fine though and haven't made any kind of an arse since I packed in the wine.

She didn’t really just ‘say she didn’t like macaroons.’ She yelled and flounced out of a party organised by other people and said they hadn’t made any effort. It makes a bad atmosphere and it’s ungrateful and just depressing. This type of stuff is only hilarious and a laugh to the people doing it. It’s not fun for anyone else to see someone go off in a tantrum because they don’t like their party or their cake that you made.

I am saying literally the opposite

I think people drink too much in the UK. Every event seems to have someone who makes an arse of themselves or has a meltdown, why do people drink so much?

Exactly. I am gobsmacked that people are comparing saying "I dont like macaroons" and getting tired and emotional is the SAME thing as a drunken man verbally abusing/attacking his wife.

Good grief.

Hi all, sorry have been busy. I spoke to my mum, she was laughing a totally fine and told me not to worry, 'it's just us'. Went out for breakfast which my mum had phoned ahead and payed for bless her.

Then went for a cocktail, then to my mums chatted with her then me and my mum and aunt went to see my gran and now I'm home.

About to get ready for night out tonight. All is well that ends well. And that is not my typical behaviour at all. Hence the shame.

I’ll take the dusty rainbow turds off your hands!

it’s weird isn’t it, because to read through the thread you’d think that people are incapable of understanding others likes/dislikes, ways of celebrating etc. without resorting to identifying non-existent addiction issues or sneering over behaviour they wouldn’t personally engage in.

I could have embarked on a lecture about sugar and not understanding why people insist that sugary foods are - treat when it leads to obesity and large dental bills and contribute to me having to endure others bad breath…. But I didn’t because I’m not a sanctimonious <insert word of choice, It’s up to you if you want to offend yourself->

I'm glad you went and enjoyed your day and all has worked out well!

Delighted it all ended well.

What a wonderful mother you have, lucky girl!

Great update, and your mum is a star ⭐️

Have a lovely evening.

Aw so glad it ended well! apologising and taking it on the chin goes a long way honestly.

Most people who drink have been there at some point! My dad got plastered and was a total jerk to our new SIL's dad (brother's new FIL) the first time they met. It was so embarrassing but he went round to his house and apologised and all was well.

Your mum sounds amazing.

Thanks for the update, op.
I love hearing peoples drunken stories, maybe because it helps me to feel better about mine (mine are worse, oh so much worse). But the embarrassing, yet no harm done are always the best 😁

@FunDragon
Your reply has just made me spit my tea out and I'm going to be using that now

Your mum sounds amazing OP. Lucky you to have her! Happy Birthday.

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

I think people drink too much in the UK. Every event seems to have someone who makes an arse of themselves or has a meltdown, why do people drink so much?

Not in my world. Born and bred in the UK. I don't really drink and DH barely does. Have seen zero incidences of arse-making drunken episodes at parties or while out. Although I am sure Saturday nights out and about in towns and cities would be an eye-opener, but that probably hasn't changed for decades (if not centuries!). We were at a BBQ yesterday for a group of 18 yo lads and there was an open bar (no spirits) and one of them brought a bottle of vodka to do shots. Some got a bit tiddly but they were all well behaved, just 'high spirited'.

Glad everything worked out OK @30notflirty hope you enjoy the rest of your birthday!

relax, we've all been there (apart from the po faced puritans that is). You probably feel like shit right now but you will always be able to look yourself in the mirror and say, truthfully, "I am not now, or ever will be, Billy Bragg".

Apologise. Buy your mum some flowers. Get on with the celebrations xxx