I have been on the MN property boards for the past year and in that time the advice has been to stretch and buy your dream home.
Lots of people saying they did just that 10 years ago and now their house has doubled in value.
The people doing it now will be fucked, especially along with energy rises.
We have been financially struggling (collapsing) for the last three years because I had to leave my career to care for my middle child full time. Life on one wage meant we slowly but surely slipped into debt, until we could borrow no more.
We were downsizing to a flat but it has taken so long to sell our place and buy another (10 months) that we are moving into a rental next week.
We have a huge amount of equity that we intend to supplement dh's wage with so we can live comfortably again.
I bought my first home in 2006. We have made some money but now now we need it to pay the rent, heat the house and feed our kids.
And actually, it is a huge relief.
My Mother has a house worth 1m and savings in the bank of 1m. We went NC last year, but she truly believes she is financially secure because "they worked hard" and were sensible. She never had a job or a disabled child but it doesn't fit her entitled middle class narrative to admit that.
When she dies she will loose 40% of assets she could have shared with her four adult children. But they are hers and she would rather go greedily to her grave knowing no one else benefited from that money.
It is possible we will rent for the rest of our lives but - after not knowing how I was going to buy food some weeks - it doesn't seem so bad.