AIBU to be upset for leaving a job I chose to leave?

[Flyonthewall01]

I’ve been working for this company for a few years now and I love the company and the people but my role is getting stale and I want progression.
I have hoped for something to come up internally but sadly not. So I ended up applying externally. I didn’t expect much but somehow I have been offered a really good position with a significant package that my current company can’t match.
So today I finally took the plunge and gave my notice in but throughout talking to manager I was holding back tears. He was genuinely supportive but that made me feel worse if anything.
I’ve now seen my role advertised and I just feel so emotional about it even though I know leaving is for the best.
Is it normal to feel like this? How am I going to get through my last day if this how I feel now 😞

Yes of course it is normal if you enjoy being there. I felt similar about my own recent change, I was only really leaving because of one person, everything else was great.

But six weeks later I’m feeling so happy I made the move and I hardly ever think of my old role!

It's a "heart over head" response. You love it and your heart says stay. But your head knows that staying isn't the best route in the longer term.
All 100% valid and real. But the upset of leaving will pass and hopefully your new career path will be amazing.
(I would recommend avoiding giving a leaving speech on your last day)

Thank you, yes I think you are right about heart over head thing. It’s hard because I know everybody is replaceable and that although some people I work with will be sad they’ll all move on pretty quickly and so will I but it’s hard to shake the sadness

I felt like that leaving a job and being honest I regret it massively. The new job I expected to be amazing but it turned out to be horrendous and I knew on the first day I'd made a massive mistake.

That lasted 6 months and I'm now in a better job and quite happy but I still regret leaving the original job.

Sorry I'm not trying to be negative I just wanted to share my experience when I felt similar on leaving.

No no it’s ok I’ll take negativity too. The new job I’m leaving for might not be what it’s all cracked up to be but I suppose I was looking for other things as I wasn’t happy in my current role so I think my regret would be leaving the people which probably isn’t the right reason to stay anyway

Good for you for stepping out of your comfort zone. I’m in a similar place. Love my role and get on so well with manager but there’s no progression and I’ve had to start looking externally, especially with the rise in the cost of living.

Thank you. Good luck!! Hope you find what you are looking for

I'm also in a similar space. Leaving my job of 6 years, it's comfortable and I know it inside and out. Moving to a new job which is an amazing opportunity but feel quite daunted about whether can actually do it or not! I think it's change - we are creatures of habit and when something as big as this changes it can be unsettling. However in my case I know there's no progression for me if I stay so I need to move on.

I’m in a similar position, although I didn’t love my job so I’m really confused why I’m sad to leave it. I’m on maternity leave and been offered a new role, I have yet to hand my notice in officially but still have time for that. This new offer is a great opportunity and they’ve been so accommodating so far. I’m still sad though. I think part of it is that it’s comfortable and familiar.

I've always been really upset to leave jobs, even when I know it's the right thing.

Always very sad to leave the people, and it just feels like the end of an era.

People who aren't sad leaving have probably got to the stage where they are miserable and stale. Not great energy to take to the new role