DS 12 is a quiet, gentle boy with anxiety and it spikes from time to time. This week he has had a few issues at school with 2 boys from his group of friends doing daft things - low level bullying and called him short a couple of times, scribbling on his bag, and today during one lesson said his name loudly in class a few times and laughed and he didn't know why they were laughing. So not major bullying that dc of some posters may have experienced but it's enough to send DS's anxiety skyhigh and he isn't eating, he's withdrawn and teary and saying he hates school and wants to be homeschooled. We've given him lots of reassurance over the week but haven't contacted the school at his request. But Monday I will be ringing them so they can support him in some way as well as the GP for a referral to camhs. (I emailed his previous practitioner and she said waiting list isn't too long and ask for a referral). He has had CBT before for OCD and anxiety and it helped. He was also diagnosed with ASD in January though his friends don't know about this and it's hard to tell he is neurodiverse as he masks really well.
My heart breaks seeing him become a shell of his previous self, he can't handle anybody calling him names or laughing at him. He's very sensitive and takes even the littlest things to heart. He won't answer back. He did tell them he doesn't like it though but boys at this age think nothing of it and carry on. I would like him to build some resilience and let certain things slide because I know kids say it more when they know the person is visibly affected.
Sorry I'm rambling with my post is everywhere and its not an AIBU but I'm just so concerned about his wellbeing. I want to ask, does anyone else have a child like this? Is there anything that helped? How else can I support him through this difficult time? He keeps saying he hates school and will never like it again and wants to be homeschooled.