Thoughts on taking your DC out of school to enjoy the sunshine?

[Dorsetdelight211]

DD is 14, year 9. She's just had a message off her best friend to say she won't be in school today as her mum is taking her and her younger sister to the beach for the day. Que DD saying how cool the mum is and how unfair it is that I never let her miss school for fun stuff. I've got to work and even if I didn't I still wouldn't let her do it.

YABU-its a beautiful day, one day off school won't make a difference
YANBU-school is important and you can't skive off just because the weathers nice.

@Crazylifewithlabs I agree. It’s a rare thing but my DDs always remember those days. I think because they’re a little bit naughty. And I organise a few treats. My Mum used to surprise us once a year with a trip to the Fortnum and Mason ice cream parlour. We never knew when it was going to happen but it was always so lovely. We knew how hard she must have saved for that …💕

And then expect your child to lie when they return to school??

Impacted because someone was ill? That's all you can take from this post?

Clearly not missing 1 day of school worked wonders for you.

I’d rather go to school/work on a hot day than bake on a beach!

For a day in the sunshine? no.
There will be sunshine on a weekend at some point - already has been.

Now I do actually feel slightly differently about taking kids out of school for holidays - under certain circumstances anyway (such as age/how well they are doing and what you'll be doing on the holiday - if it's just sat around the pool/beach then no - but travel can be exceptionally beneficial and educational and it's not accessible for so many due to the extortionate costs in the summer holidays)

When a child is absent from school it does have an indirect impact on other students/teachers. I have already explained this in a previous post. I know it might seem illogical to suggest that but in many cases it’s true.

As for the personal jab, I’ll leave that to one side. Not sure why you felt the need to make it.

It’s not setting children up for a working life though is it? How many jobs will let you just take the day off because it’s sunny?

So irresponsible and poor parenting imo.

We always have a day off to go to a theme park in June, it’s always hot and avoids the crowds. Has had no effect on their learning at all.

Setting them up to have some spontaneity and fun.

When a child is absent from school it does have an indirect impact on other students/teachers. I have already explained this in a previous post. I know it might seem illogical to suggest that but in many cases it’s true.

It was insensitive to question the impact of a sick child on others in school. I have tried to reply to your attempt at an apology several times but I was genuinely stuck for words that you thought it was even remotely reasonable to make comments about a child off sick for months and what it might do for others. It fucking floored us as a family, should we have wheeled her hospital bed into class so as not to disrupt others

I have sometimes thought that the practice of not authorising holidays is sometimes harsh but having read some of the bullshit reasons people take their kids out of school I have changed my mind.

It was a genuine apology and in no way to challenge your response to me regarding you scenario. I have not suggested that you wheel her out of hospital. This thread was about missing school. You effectively said it doesn’t matter and I say it does matter for a number of reasons. I still believe attendance for students is the priority. The efficiency and effectiveness of teaching and learning in schools for all students relies on attendance. Once again I want to make it clear I am not challenging you situation, which is awful, I’m challenging your original view towards attendance.

Goodness you are still at it

Still at what? I only replied to your post.

Such a dishonest thing to do - and terrible role modelling!

I do this one day a year. Near the end of term when there isn't much learning going on. It's lovely for you and the kids.

Ridiculous. After all the school kids missed during lockdown. I would never do this anyway.

it’s also really selfish, some poor teacher has to help your kid catch up, just so you could bugger off to the beach for the day. Disgusting tbh.

What about the teachers who probably give up a break time to help your kids catch up on what they missed? Utterly selfish

What about parents who work weekends? You’re really overthinking this and taking it very personally.

I think it’s wonderful. I think this most is more about OP (and others) feeling triggered and upset that they can’t do this with their own children because of work. Which I empathise with! But the sanctimonious ones saying their education is paramount etc - I don’t agree, I think experiences like this can be so powerful, create amazing memories, strengthen family relationships and give a much needed boost to wellbeing and happiness levels.

Eurghhh just ride your horse with your lack of compassion Mrs busy body. The DC was ill for crying out loud!

Your embarrassing 😳 the utter audacity to speak about personal jab..
Behave!

Just read through all of OP’s comments - Good grief. Barrel of laughs she is. So much anger and bitterness. We all know people who are able to smell the roses a bit more then ourselves, because their circumstances are different - it’s such a waste of energy to stew and seethe over it. You speak a lot about role modelling to children OP, I hope your children are not aware of how het up you’ve got over this - because that is not preparing them well for ‘the real world’ as you put it, where there will always be people who think differently to us, and have different values and priorities. Lighten up!

Lesserspottedmama

I think it’s wonderful. I think this most is more about OP (and others) feeling triggered and upset that they can’t do this with their own children because of work the assumptions on here are infuriating! If I wanted to book annual leave to take my child out of school for a day at the beach I could, I'm not a teacher, im not tied to term time hours. I dont want to. It has absolutely nothing to do with being 'triggered' (what does that even mean?!).

I agree with this

I think you are sending your dc the wrong message. They shojkd value their education, and how it affects their life chances