(Have nc for this)
About 5 years ago I dated this guy for a few months.
His behaviour was, at best, weird and embarrassing, at worst, wildly inappropriate, controlling, risky, cold, disturbing and altogether a bit scary. He was incredibly charming and I’m convinced he had a personality disorder. He was a self confessed hedonist and really would stop at nothing to get pleasure. He told me very early on that ALL of his ex’s had asked him not to contact them again… somehow at the time, I didn’t see this as a warning sign!!
There are honestly too many incidences that demonstrate just how disturbing his behaviour was, but this was one really stands out and was the one that made me realise that I needed to break it off asap- two family members caught him wanking with the door open on two separate occasions (on the same day)…. he showed not a shred of embarrassment or remorse.
Anyway, I broke it off when I finally came to my senses, and just had this immense feeling that I had escaped something that could’ve been absolutely awful. It makes me feel so uncomfortable thinking about it. Promptly blocked him and asked him not to contact me again.
Skip to today. FB showed me a memory and as I was reading the comments, I spotted his name. It seems I had unfriended but not blocked him on Facebook. There was a woman next to him in the photo and they’re obviously dating.
She’s not tagged in the photo, and I have no way of finding out who she is, so this is entirely hypothetical, but in this situation, would it be appropriate to send a brief warning message? I couldn’t help looking at her and feeling a bit panicked for her. I know she’s a grown woman, but I feel like if one of his exes had done the same, I might’ve seen through his charm much sooner.
So. If I could, wibu to warn his girlfriend?