To give up on him

[Daisychains97]

I sent a WhatsApp this morning to the man I am seeing. He read it and hasn’t responded. He is at work so I thought fair enough but I have just gone on WhatsApp to message a friend and he appeared online on WhatsApp. He then went offline again but my message is still on read. All seems ok apart from that, I see him two times a week usually but Shall I give up?

New contender for the most pointless post of the week.

You are prepared to give up on someone you like just because he hasn't replied to a WhatsApp message sent a few hours ago whilst he is at work, really??

It’s more the fact he came online to respond to someone else but still hasn’t responded to my message

Does he do this kind of thing all the time or is it one off?

Do you get any feeling that he is just using you? Is he a normal nice kind decent man?

Turn off read receipts. Beat thing I ever did.

Could he be using WhatsApp to contact a colleague/boss? I wouldn't read to much into at this point

@missbipolar he could do as I think he does use it for work. We have arranged to meet Saturday so I will see how it goes

If it bothers you that much then yes stop seeing him. You don't have to see anyone you don't want to. It does come across a tinsy bit stalkerish if you're there checking if he's online though.

Do you continually check when he’s read messages or when he is online? If so, stop, because it’s not healthy. When seeing someone, it should be drama free and fun. You’re getting to know the other person.

As you said, he’s at work. Leave him to respond in his own time and if that time frame isn’t good enough for you and causes upset/anxiety then he’s not the one for you.

"...she Whatapped me, which I noticed, but as I was at work I didn't reply, and now she's all over Mumsnet asking what it means."

"It means you should run, mate. Away. Quickly."

How do you know that? Maybe he clicked on the app by accident.

Jesus

I’d assume that the other message was one that needed an instant reply whereas yours was more of a chat so could wait till after work. Also that he wanted to put more thought into his response to yours because he wants to create a good impression. Whereas the other person was family or a long time friend and he could dash off a response quickly.

If he doesn’t respond to you tonight then ignore the above! But at this stage I don’t think there is any cause for concern.

He could have gone on there to find a photo or check a time that he was meant to do something. Or... perhaps he has text someone like his mum or a colleague.

Really. You're not his be all and end all. I think your reaction is way OTT. Give him a break. High maintenance springs to mind. Sorry, but you did ask for opinions!

I wfh and have a group WhatsApp chat which if we need to quickly confer we can pop into. I don't get a chance to answer personal stuff right away most of the time till later. Perhaps he has a work chat .. I message when free later - that's when I haven't forgotten they messaged!