Have I just got lousy neighbours?

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Been here 3 years. Both neighbours either side have had my phone number since lockdown. Both will either light a bonfire or have a fire pit on fairly regularly. Isn't it common decency to let me know if I have washing out or Windows open before lighting?

Um, did you ask them? Because that’s not very clear. It does seem like you prefer some drama to just asking them politely to let you know in advance, or hanging your washing out earlier.

Talk to them, ask them to speak to you so you can shut windows. If you are remaining silent then you are accepting it by default.

Your neighbours are probably thinking same thing about their activities.

I have all my NDNs mobile numbers and we are all on great terms

I never text them on the odd occasion we have a bonfire nor ever when we have bbq unless we are inviting them over! They don't to me either (but then our back gardens are long so bonfires are at end of gardens a distance from any of the NDN or over the back houses- whereas our BBQs (& I imagine fire pits too) are nearer houses.

I feel bad now we don't let each other know ahead of time about bonfires but tbf each of us do it rarely and it's always after 6pm (besides my dad does it and doesn't even tell me!!) - but that's fair enough to prewarn each other
My washing is in by 6pm - I find it strange if people are lighting bonfires during the day as they can be considered a nuisance in the daytime.

But telling NDNs when you'll be lighting your fire pit? Or a BBQ? That's seems strange as they don't put out that much smoke unless your using the wrong fuel or burning your burgers!!!

Your neighbours are morons if they light a bonfire or fire pit if you have washing out.
Just tell them you'd welcome warning to bring your washing in and to close your windows before they light a fire.

I thought you couldn't light a bonfire until after 6pm.

Depends on the local borough council bylaws in U.K. ours isn't a bylaw but a suggestion of after 6pm on council website . Some councils have it in bylaw and enforce it . Ours talks about not making a nuisance - so repeated bonfires during the day. Large ones or long lasting ones might be considered causing an nuisance which is enforceable.

Manners and thinking about others have gone downhill.

I could never light a bonfire in the daytime
Why don't people care about others anymore

If Smoke gets on your clothes you have to wash them all again. It also gets in your hair
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Thank you!! It seems we are in the minority here 🙄

So you're not going to speak to them then? Instead you'll just moan about how inconsiderate they are?

I've never, in 30 years of home ownership, been told by a neighbour that they were lighting a fire/bbq or having a party.

How many people have you told?

Could it be regional? Maybe where you grew up it was the norm, but where you've moved to it isn't?

I have never had a bonfire lit anywhere near me in all the 25 years I have lived in my area. Both myself and neighbours have very occasional BBQ. We BBQ on a chiminea so the long stack takes the smoke up and less likely to bother.