Bitchy comment from colleague

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Work is pretty stressful at the moment with lots of changes going on. I work the least hours in the department. I overheard two of my colleagues talking about how I don’t get stressed because it doesn’t effect me as I work too few hours.
Aibu to think this is bitchy? I try and be positive in work and support the team. I do get stressed but don’t show it like them.

I.wouldn't worry, they obviously wish they had less hours.

You say that you don't show your stress, and it seems that you do so successfully.

It doesn't sound like a mean comment, just factual really. Obviously context and tone/voice etc. would have a bearing, but otherwise, I'd move on from it.

Just move on and let it go

maybe you seem like you don’t care or aren’t pulling your weight
or maybe they’re just fed up and you have it easier - perceived as you don’t show stress, and realistically as you do less hours

that’s not your problem and it’s understandable too
tone obv makes a difference here and you didn’t hear the full conversation
so I think all you can do is assume it’s more about their unhappiness than anything to do with you and move on from it

Just say to them 'I do get stressed, I just don't see that getting in a flap help anything, but I'm happy to start stressing out loud so that you know despite being part time I'm just as committed to the job! knobs

No it is an unkind remark implying you have an easy life. I would say something that hints to them that you overheard them. State that some people handle stress differently.

No, not bitchy, IMO. They don’t know you’re stressed because you’re hiding it. They’re trying to work out why and the fewer hours is a logical explanation.

Making friends generally requires honesty and being willing to show vulnerability. It’s up to you whether you want to be friends with your colleagues or whether you prefer to keep it professional.

By showing vulnerability, I don’t mean behaving unprofessionally, but the occasional acknowledgment of the stress you’re all under, can help to cement the feeling that you’re all in the same boat.

It sounds more envious than bitchy. I wouldn't worry about it.

I'd say it is a bitchy comment as the implication is you have it easy working less hours. I'd probably just rise above though.

That's what annoys me, I work hard when I am there never slack off. Just because I work less hours doesn't mean I have it easier whilst at work.

Jealousy. Nothing more.

I would take it that they see you as being able to cope when they can't and are trying to explain their shortcomings on the basis that they do more hours than you.

No it doesn’t seem bitchy. It seems quite rational, I mean if the environment is stressful then wouldn’t working more hours mean more stress as a rule of thumb.

When.people used to comment on me being part time I'd remind them firmly that I was only paid for the hours I'm employed for - and if they wanted a payout but the same work load they could request part time hours as well!

Paycut! Not payout

I have had little backhanded comments like this before, because generally I am quite protective of my time and learnt long ago that endlessly working overtime only benefitted the company, not me, and they also didn't give a shit.
I work overtime when its crucial and I am always happy to pitch in to help others, but you stop paying me at 5pm and my time with my family is more important than the business.

They sound bitter and jealous tbh, and probably fail to handle their own workload.

I never outwardly show stress at work and always appear positive. It’s a result of years of office politics and observing workplace behaviour and how it affected me personally.

They’re likely envious as others have said. Just ignore it.

Full time = full time stress
Part time = part time stress

Okay, you might spend time at home stressing about work, but so will they. Since you're not actually present at work as much as they are, then you will not be being exposed to as much stress during the day, so they are actually right in a way.

You do have it easier over all though at work op as you are there less.

personally I don’t really see the issue. It was a factual statement, are you sensitive about being a part timer?

I work part time. I know I would be more stressed if I was there full time so I can see their logic.

@Fullsomefrenchie

Yes I am sensitive about working part time it's not through choice it's due to health reasons.
The person who made the comment doesn't work full time she work 5 hours a week more than me. I think if a full timer said it I would understand more.