Feel like I’m polishing a turd

[Spooked102]

I feel so down and awful about how I look. I had my first baby nearly 2 years ago and my body is dreadful. I have a big belly and over hang, big 38F saggy lopsided boobs and fat arms. My hair is long and was once thick before having my baby now it’s thin and even though the hair shedding post partum stopped last year it seems to be at it again and I’m losing a lot of my hair. I had post partum thyroidism but it’s now back to normal, so have had bloods done a few months ago, everything normal. All I eat is chocolate, I can’t stop! Even days that I do make an effort I feel like I look frumpy and my big boobs ruin most of my outfits. I have a decent bra but I still hate how big they are. I have no waist at the moment so even dresses look awful. I’ll tan, have my hair done put makeup on and even though I look quite pretty I still feel like I’m just polishing a turd. I’d feel so much better if I just lost the weight, but I absolutely love my food, Right now I’m wishing I’d started dieting last year because I’m a big sweaty mess in this heat 😂 then I think even if I lost weight would I still have this odd shaped figure? Or would it change. So what’s the point. Please motivate me! I really need a kick up the arse. I have a friends wedding in September is it too late to lose a good amount of weight for it? And how?

Nope not too late. If you lost an average of 1 to 2 pounds a week you could lose between 10 and 25lbs by then.

Stop bringing the chocolate into the house in the first place.

Be kinder to/about yourself!

Drink loads of water.

Stop using dips or sauces with food

No sugar in teas/coffees or added sugar in general

Eat as much whole foods as you can.

What type of excersice do you like doing? If you absolutely hate excersice or dont have the time, you can control your weight just with the right food intake.

Stop talking about yourself like this. This body you call a turd has had a beautiful baby during a pandemic. You've been through so much.
You wear 38F, you're not so big that it's hopeless. It's not too late to start.
Get a couple of comfortable outfits in your size and shape right now and start a diet, any diet, that you think you can stick and keep going. The time will pass all the same whether you sit on the sofa scoffing pastries and biscuits or salad and fish.
I have a feeling that if you stay negative, you will comfort eat more and by September you'll be bigger and feeling worse.
When you love yourself, you eat better and you take care of yourself. You can't love yourself when you call her a turd and other negative self talk so watch that.

Work out how many calories you need roughly to sustain yourself and work out a calorie deficit.

Have a look at intermittent fasting to see if thats something youd like to try.

Rather than focus on your weight i think you need some CBT or something to address the way you talk about yourself. Would you talk to a friend like that?

That sounds miserable, @Spooked102 . You can make a start and lose quite a lot by September. I’d look at dietdoctor.com and try low carb. If you want to make a big start try keto for a while. Lots on there is free and you can do a free month’s trial to see the rest.

 for you @Spooked102, you sound like you're being really hard on yourself. Other than once saying you're quite pretty when you make an effort you've just listed tons of things that you don't like about yourself, and I'm willing to bet that none of those are as bad as you make out - if you saw a friend or even another lady in the street who looked like you I am sure you might think she looked perfectly acceptable, you'd find good points to say about her too.

Pregnancy and child-rearing is hard on the body and the last couple of years have been ridiculously tough and strange for most. Food brings security and joy in such times, I do think I understand how you feel.

If you aren't happy with the way you look please don't punish yourself with crash diets / feeling guilty if you have treats, you will feel even worse and it's a downward spiral from there. I would suggest that you take some small steps incrementally to make yourself feel better and kickstart some change. September is a good target but start slow - the weight didn't go on overnight and it won't come off overnight but you can make a real difference with incremental changes - drinking lots of water, introducing and building up healthy snacks and exercise. I wish you luck - please stop beating yourself up.

How are you feeling about things now, @Spooked102?