To ask for any wisdom for entering my 30s?

[theshapeofus]

I turn 30 on Saturday. I have changed so much from ten years ago, from my beliefs, opinions, friendships, relationship to what the music I enjoy listening to.

There has always been one thing that has stayed consistent in my life and that is my temper. If I have ever felt slighted I text/phone/react before I even think and this has resulted in lost friendships and relationships. The anger takes over and I see red and can't see clear.

The past few months I have been trying to react less to things. If I feel that wave of anger, I've been trying to breathe and tape some time before reacting. And I feel much better for it, even though it's difficult.

So I think I'm going to enter my 30s trying to be a kinder person and more tolerant and less reactive.

Is there any other posters that could share some wisdom they wish they'd known at 30?

Make the most of them.

This is the decade where you are truly an adult. You know everything you need to about life, more or less! Your health is hopefully still good. Life shouldn't have completely jaded you yet! You still have the energy to go out late and get up early.

So enjoy them!

And be thankful you are not about to turn 50 (goes off and cries silently in a corner!)

Happy birthday for Saturday!🎂

Start doing yoga/pilates/stretching now. You can thank me when you're turning 50.

You are possibly hotter now than you will ever be again - too young yet for wrinkles/saggy bits/achey joints to set in - so rejoice in that and just enjoy your youth!

I wish I'd realised how bloody beautiful i was when I was 30! And also not put up with some of the shit I did at that age - inner confidence and the art of not giving a shit is definitely something I've gained with age.

Keep an eye on your pension contributions.

Lol at too young for achey joints.

I'm 32 and already had 2 replacements. On the list for another 4.

You poor thing - that's shit

I'm hoping by 40 I'll be ready for life!

Wear sunscreen!

Second the advice above about yoga, Pilates etc. I was so supple in my 20s and could sit cross legged, do headstands etc do the mermaid pose. Had kids in my 30s and did not get back into yoga until mid 40s - OMG nowhere near getting any of that suppleness back!!

Put max contributions into your pension.

Travel far and wide including around UK - so many wonderful places to visit!

Don't put up with toxic work environments - move on - life is too short.

You are never 'stuck' doing what you're doing, be that work, relationship, where you live etc.
The best advice I've ever been given is that happiness is sometimes something you have to choose. And by that I mean you are in charge of your own life. If you are unhappy, make changes. Be proactive.

...oh, and yeah, do yoga!

Prioritise friendships, it’s easy to ditch friends when you have a partner or a young family but it’s so worth finding the time for them.
Look after your teeth
Do not sunbathe

Time flies. Use it well. Don’t put off the bucket list. Do it now.

If you're going to change any parts of your life for the better, do it now.

Give less of a fuck

Enjoy being more comfortable in your own skin.
My 30's have been the best decade, give less of a shit, much more confident and focus on doing the things I like.

Save!
Learn to relax
Get counselling
Say no when you don't want to do something
Be yourself
Drink lots of water
Trust your instincts
Embrace new relationships
Do work you actually enjoy
Live somewhere inexpensive

So I think I'm going to enter my 30s trying to be a kinder person and more tolerant and less reactive.

Is there any other posters that could share some wisdom they wish they'd known at 30?

Yes. Be kind is a load of rot that leads to you being a doormat. Don't be kind. Be respectful and fair. Be prepared to say no and dig your heels in, if you are treated unfairly and are disrespected. By the time you hit 40, you will realise that being kind is just a way to get women to comply and behave and it doesn't make the world better because the mantra sets up women to get used and shat on for doing the emotional heavy lifting for those who hapy see it as way to get one over.

Your 30s are better than your teens and twenties.

I’m 34 and I’ve finally learned to say no. Yes, it has cost me some relationships but only the ones that were benefitting from me saying yes so it’s hardly a loss. I observe much more and consider all angles before forming an opinion. I don’t say nasty things in an argument, I stick the to the facts. I’m happy to acknowledge my mistakes and apologise where needed.
much more level headed than 24 year old me

This!

Enjoy them. Start taking care of your skin, make sleep a priority and don't be so desperate for a relationship because your clock is ticking, that you ignore all the red flags!