I have autism. Growing up, my mother would shout at me and threaten to remove my belongings, she has threatened to hold me down if I were to run away for my own safety. I'm able to see now that these threats and threats such as this were always in my best interest however they were always accompanied by visible frustration that made me feel very scared. She is someone who tells me that I read her facial expressions and bodily language wrong, despite the fact that I'm able to read everyone else's. It varied from raising voice, to shouting, to yelling. Being rough with things, staring, tone, general aggressive behaviour etc. I could not correlate that doing something I should not equated to being threatened with removal of my belongings, being shouted at, and name called etc. I took it to mean that she was a horrible person who wanted to harm me, and I could not see that she was threatening me in my own best interest. If she had not treated me this way, I believe it would have been easier for me to see that she had my best interests in mind a lot sooner. She treated me this way because she was a frustrated parent with no support and didn't know how else to handle me, she still doesn't. I would have to think long and hard to name other things that she has done that I took to be abuse because it was so normal for me growing up but I think I've summed it up well so far. When I reported the behaviour to the police, they were unconcerned, and said that it is normal for parents to get mad at their kids and shout. My mum said that everything else I listed was imagined and that I am wrong about the way that she felt and exaggerating things due to my autism. I don't think I was. I took how she treated me as abuse however especially normal things that I took to think were abuse because they were accompanied by her outbursts. Since this happened years ago and still to this day, she has the nerve to tell me and other people close to her that I have an "agenda" and want to say things about her to coerce her into getting me things. Yet she continues to do things in my best interest, she means well. She has other narcissistic behaviours such as picking fights with me and changing what she said during a conversation to make her sound a lot more reasonable, telling me that I don't remember it wrong because she knows I have memory issues sometimes. How, if I can, can I clear this up with her?