AIBU to ask what would not get done in your house if you disappeared tomorrow?(lighthearted)

[Lovemypeaceandquiet]

I was changing and cleaning the water bowl for my dog yesterday and it occurred to me that I’m the only person in the house remembering to do it .
I doubt it even crosses my DHs brain that it needs doing! He would do almost anything if asked, but without prompting/reminding him of certain stuff, they would never get done.

Its not really AIBU, but I’m just curious about you MNtters - if, God forbids, something happened and you was not there to remind them, what things would most likely NOT get done you think?

I’ll start:

• as mentioned, changing the water for the pets


• getting special food for the dog (senior, small breed with joint support). He’d just get whatever food he could get his hands on


• Putting eggs to my special egg basket (😂) after bringing them from the shop


• Recycling - I swear if he had his way he’d just put all the rubbish into general bin


• replacing hand soap in the bathroom and kitchen


• replacing hand towels


• getting birthday and Christmas cards AND gifts


• Charge his electric toothbrush

I think that’s it for now 🙄😂

Oooo great post op!!
Mine:
Feeding pets
Laundry
Cleaning stairs
Picking up the dog poo
Any type of house admin
Replacing hand towels
Watering plants
Im sure i could go on ha!
In my DH defence, if he was to suddenly disappear then I'd probably starve 😁

Getting rid of stuff when outgrown, not needed. The house would just get fuller and fuller.

Organising socialising. He's an antisocial homebody at heart.

Oh yeah, picking up dog poo - I swear I’ve never seen him doing it! 🤨

My DH would do the laundry but I don’t let him - I have got my own special way 😆

If I died tomorrow, DH would wear the underpants I bought for him
last year until his own death, even though they would stop being boxers and become thongs.

DC would be in the same clothes e have now (size 4-5 and 6-7) until their teenage years.

There would be piles of socks around the house.

Beans on toast every day.

Bins
Kitty litter
Floors
Bills paid (We kept getting final notices until I took over)
DCs medication and doctors appointments being ordered and made
birthdays recalled (My DH at the weekend revealed accidentally that he does not know the exact day or month of either of their birthdays)
gardeners organised and paid
cleaner organised and paid
Kids fed half the bloody time

DH sorts out their school fees termly. He manages to keep the cats and dogs in food. Last time I went on a work trip i had to call him twice a day to remind him to feed the DCs breakfast and dinner. I don't go away anymore.

We have had serious words.

FWIW, DH does have a degenerative medical issue that affects his cognitive function. So i cut him a bit of slack, but how hard is it to set an alarm to remind you to feel your own kids?

There's only 40 pages per thread so...

My dogs would not get worm pills or flea drops and the bathroom would be filthy. Think DH would also live on crap food/takeaways as he only bothers with cooking if i'm eating.

If I disappeared
Pensions and Life insurances would be forgotten
EMPTY THE BREAD CRUMB TRAY ON THE TOASTER
hoover stairs
Clean the toilet

If DH disappeared
All school admin
Weekly shop

We split everything else pretty fairly

😂😂😂

I mean, in all seriousness, I do worry sometimes if I had some sort of medical emergency and was in a coma, my DH is my next of kin but I doubt he’s got the phone numbers, email or postal addresses of neither my mum nor my sister and he’s not on social media - how the heck would he let them know?

I’m thinking of getting a small notebook and wrote down what he should do in a emergency…

Food shopping comes immediately to mind 😂
But I have to be fair, everything else would be ok I think, if a bit slapdash.

Getting the kids new clothes
Making sure the kids cut their nails
Feeding the cat and changing the litter
Clean towels
School admin
House admin like insurances etc.

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All the bills are DD from mine and his account, I hope he’d remember to either change them all to his or make sure there’s enough is my account each month…

Nope, I’m lying to myself - I’d come back to a house with cut off water, gas and electric supply as well as final notice for the council tax 🥲

Forgot bathrooms, they would never be cleaned.

I actually can't think of anything...damn.
If DH was asked the same question however...

Everyone would DIE!! No one would feed the dogs or take them out (because "oh I thought someone else was doing it..).

The 18 would starve to death as (even though there is a full fridge and pantry) THERE IS NOTHING TO EAT ( you mean there is no ready made shite for you to eat, plenty that could be cooked though!).

Lights wouldn't be turned off in any room at any time if the day or night.

No washing would get done as it miraculously appears washed and folded on beds by the washing fairy.

No plates washed and the sink piled high with dirty plates "the dishwasher was full and I thought someone else would empty it so I stuck my stuff in the sink, no I didn't wash my stuff in the sink because that's what the dishwasher is for"

I could go on....

Dog would have ALWAYS been looked after by DH 😂

However toilets would not be cleaned properly nor would kitchen surfaces.

Homework and reading
non uniform days
additional money for school trips/extra events
buying new clothes for the children
organisung their toys and clothes when they’ve outgrown them
watering the plants
christmas and birthday cards
occasionally presents

we do share things very evenly but as I work at DS school all that side of things is left to me and by default nursery.

That bathroom grot that builds up behind the toilet and under sinks/cupboards would eventually spill out into the world and take over. Magic porridge pot esque. Only visible to my naked eye apparently!

Dh wouldnt book any holidays
The skirting boards wouldnt be cleaned
I dontvtbink another meal would get cooked if lived by himself. He would live on jam butties.

Nothing would get cleaned: fridge, microwave, hob, oven, windows, worktops, floors
Nothing would get dusted
No clean guest towels / guest loo
No hoovering
No home repairs / maintenance
Hedges wouldn't get cut / weeds picked out
The cat wouldn't get litter scooped, dishes washed, flea/worm treatments / yearly vaccinations - he would get fed as he's loud and insistent (but that's the only reason!)

I think H would enjoy living in his own version of a filthy, grotty nirvana more than the clean tidy home he does have.

No birthdays would be remembered (seriously, first Christmas with DH, SIL gave me a birthday reminder diary thing with a cheeky ‘no excuse to forget now’ Reason 21 why other SIL is my favourite)

No housework would get done apart from washing up and possibly the occasional sweep of a broom across the floor. Bins would never make it outside for the binmen to collect

Anything at all, except DH would have a very clean car.

All my beautiful plants in pots in the garden would shrivel up and die before he noticed they’d need watering.

they’d be piles of ‘stuff’ everywhere as it doesn’t bother him when things aren’t put away

the fridge would prob be minging as he’d do a food shop and just shove it in the fridge without looking at dates on the old stuff

I’m not sure our adult DDs would get birthday/xmas pressies

• birthday parties and gifts - clubs for the kids - dr's appointments - new clothes - clean clothes - school bags packed - getting the kids to school - feeding the kids - making sure they a clean (baths, hair brushed, brushed teeth) - cleaning the whole house (other half had responsibility for cleaning the bathroom. I gave in after 6 weeks...) - shopping (food and cleaning stuff) - bins going out - kids being fed - schools trips and forms sorted and paid for - filling in forms for new school and other school admin.

Essentially, the house and kids lives would grind to a halt...

Yeah- DH's best friend asked me and a couple other friends' wives to be godparents. I was thrilled beyond measure until he giggled and said it was because 'The men never remember to get presents and the women always do'. He clearly was incredibly smug and self congratulating for thinking up this gem. This was at the christening. All of us (female) godparents were a bit