to ask if anyother sahp has a similar set up

[Mynameisnotsweetheartordarling]

My dh works and I'm a carer to our disabled son and two dc.
I have full control over our money. I pay all the bills shopping etc save for hoildays Christmas etc.
When dh wants money he asks me if there is enough as he doesn't know whats going out etc and i tell him how much he can have.
I sound financially abusive but we are happy with the set up. Since Im alone with the kids so much so i know what food we need and if they need anything.
We both have access to our joint account and dh will add things on to the shopping list if he wants anything

Anyone else the same ?

Complete opposite here.

We have joint accounts but I have little involvement. We both have the same outlook on expenditure and are happy to save for the same goals.

No one checks on each other’s spending as we both trust each other. If it was to get silly, it would show on the joint statements. It sort of keeps us both in check.

In terms of big purchases, we both have a say but I tend to have final say but actually arranging payment would always be DH.

I think it's quite an old fashioned, working class thing. My grandad would've done the same with my grandma and it seems it happens where there is a more traditional set up at home. Man goes to work, woman stays at home. Wouldn't work in my house as we both work and I earn more.

I've always done the money and life admin in our family. I do try and get him involved but his eyes glaze over the minute I mention money. I have managed to hand over car related stuff to him but he always messes up something ie gets the direct debit date wrong or gives the wrong bank account.

I told him about a new bank account Martin Lewis was raving about that came with a really good savings rate so he decided to open one. He only got as far as opening the bank account part. He didn't read the bit that said that he needed to open and link a savings account to transfer money across. Silly man - he sat watching his money sitting in his current account waiting for some interest for months. Nothing happened. It took him 3 months to work out why.
He needed 80 tiles for the bathroom and nearly ordered 80 packs - I have no clue how much tiles cost but even I knew £1600 was a bit steep. And what's worse he genuinely didn't question the cost. He would have clicked confirm to pay if he hadn't have had to ask me which bank card to use.

I guess he's just not a details man 🙃

At the end of the day it works for us. And he doesn't mind getting his hands dirty and will walk the dog, do the bins, clean the bathrooms and all the gardening which is a good trade as far as I'm concerned.

He can access money anytime he wants but never does. He would take 20 out for whatever but almost always never spends it.