Aibu to have had enough. Friend's lies

[Pantsonfire74]

Again my friend has contacted me to give me her latest life announcement. Another bunch of lies. Most lies revolve around money, such as "look at this 2m house I'm going to buy" or "in shares in a multi millionaire" No one is more important than her husband, bright as her kids etc

I have an excellent memory and always catch her out but never confront her. I'm just so tired of it but feel guilty when I think about cutting her off - she clearly has some personal issues! Aibu to walk away?

Sounds like your friend has a bad case of status anxiety and is trying to one-up everyone else and psyche them out.

If she has been a decent friend and good company up until now, just let her ride out this phase. Give her time, and she'll get past it. I don't mean that to sound dismissive, but almost everyone goes through rough patches and some need to cover it up with braggadocio. Ignore the boasts. If there's a film or show you want to see and that she'd like, invite her along and try to steer your friendship along the lines of mutual interests.

Sounds like you deserve each other.

A good friend would sit down and ask her why she feels the need to do this and show concern. You sound full of contempt, and should probably distance yourself. I wouldn't really want a friend that isn't truthful.

I really don't understand why some people are so horrible on here.
The friendship has probably run its course so time to walk away.

I wouldn’t confront her, my SIL lies like this and is very obviously mentally ill. No confrontation will make her admit she’s lied so it’s not something either of you will get closure from - she believes it to be true.

Tell her you've had enough of the stuff she comes out with. She will, in her head perceive it as jealousy or something and then not give you a second thought. Nobody can be arsed with a jackanory.

She just wants you to be her audience. Just don't respond to her messages and then she'll go and find another audience.

I had an ex friend like this. Note the ex... the final straw for me was when she lied about a) having cancer b) ha

Oops! B) lied about having a stillbirth. It was just too much for me and I faded her out...

It's a bit sad really, she may be making stuff up to filĺ a void in her life. Doesn't make it any less irritating as it assumes you are naive enough not to see through it.

My sister used to do this, things like asking me to view houses with her that she would never be able to afford. It was so obvious to everyone. Her life was a downward spiral of debt and she ended up cutting herself off and moving away. Last I heard she was living in a tiny property with a big charge on it by a debt recovery firm.

Perhaps be less available to listen to it to save your sanity.

Ending the friendship would seem reasonable to me. Question is whether to tell her why, as it might stop her doing the same to others.

Care to elaborate further?

If she is a good friend in other ways i could overlook this as low self esteem/insecurity.

If all the friendship is her showing off and you feeling frustrated about the lies then I would definitely let friendship drift.