Hi everyone,
We currently have 3 children (13y/o 12y/o and a 8 month old) and currently live in a very small 3 bedroom property in the suburbs within walking distance to our children’s schools and a 10 minute car trip to work.
I have gone back to work and my DH is mainly the stay at home parent for our 8 month old. This was a joint decision.
We have what I feel is a once in a lifetime opportunity by my friends parents, they are wanting to downsize out of their large 4 bedroom property (attached townhouse on small block) which is in the heart of a major city (30-40minutes away from my home (detached house on large block)
my husband is deadset against the idea, his reasoning is that it will be too loud during the day and night, the property is attached to another property, I will be too far away from my work, and he will get sick and tired of driving up and down for the remainder of the school year, and having to try and find a car spot when he gets back home.
While I’m all for the idea as our 8 month old doesn’t have a bedroom and currently still with us, we had to turn our dining space (tiny) into a spot to put all her toys and equipment.
and we are in process of getting quotes and submitting documents required to get a building permit but have been advised by our council and builder that can take anywhere up to 3 years, and if we decide to do the swap for 3 years unfortunately the other party want a long term swap of 5+ years (which all legal documents will be done by a lawyer) and the only way out of our 5 year agreement would be if there was a death or serious illness.
which I think is also what makes my husband deadset against it.
am I being unreasonable in wanting to give my children a different lifestyle (not to mention the endless opportunities for them) and giving my youngest a bedroom not to mention a large house that we all can fit comfortably in.
Im not sure either if I am seeing this from a different angle as our 8 month old is a terrible sleeper (due to allergies and other conditions) and both my DH and I are both sleep deprived.
thanks