To leave my DH

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I don’t know if I am being picky but I am getting so so fed up!!!

my DH is so lazy, he falls asleep at the drop of a hat, anywhere! He never gets up with the kids in the night (has never helped when they were babies), my eldest is 4, youngest is almost 2.

he never cleans up after himself, the only thing I have is that the kids adore him and he plays with them so well. I don’t have the time to do what he does and I know they would miss that 😢….I’m unhappy though.

Have you spoken to him about how you feel?

Why doesn’t he get up in the night?
Why do you clean up after him?

Have y I u told him how you feel?

Does he eat properly? Is he lacking in vitamins that make him tired or does he work very long hours as it sounds unusual to be so tired all of the time?

You would have the time to do what he does if you did absolutely nothing in the house too, OP

Anyone can do the fun bit of parenting if they dont have any other stuff to deal with and get ti act like the fun uncle / visitor in their own house

If you split you could get chores done while they were visiting their dad.youd get them done quicker as youd have one leas person to slave over. Then youd have more time to have fun with the kids

my DH is so lazy, he falls asleep at the drop of a hat, anywhere!

He could be lazy but there is a condition called narcolepsy which can cause this.

Have you talked to him about how fed up you are? Does he know you are thinking of leaving? I suppose you should have a conversation about a fairer division of work but honestly if an adult is not even trying to do their share and is in fact making more work then I'm not sure a conversation can fix it. You don't have to stay if you feel put upon and can see no end to it.

He can lie there and within seconds he is asleep. He has had tests at the sleep clinic but they found nothing. He takes him 6 years to get out of bed in the morning (in that time I have made breakfast, coffees etc) he tells me you play to your strengths 🙄

Playing to his strengths, my arse. What he's doing is opting out of the hard/boring bits of parenting. If I were you I'd fuck off and leave him on his own with the kids for a weekend so that he can learn to appreciate why you are so fed up with him - and what EO weekend will be like for him if he doesn't buck his ideas up.

If the flame has gone out then you have 2 choices:

1. Find a way to rekindle things, including couples therapy,

1. Break up.

Neither way will be easy.

OK so he is completely taking the piss. Apparently he thinks you're choosing the grunt work because that's you're strength and leaving him to do fun parenting because that's his strength. There is no amount of talking which will make him less lazy and selfish, this is your life, I'd choose a different future if I were you.