to expect to walk through to playground with my dd's and not have some psycho mum teaching them new swear words

[kerryk]

dd1 (p2) and dd2 (nursery) both get picked up from the back of the school, we then have to walk back round to the front to get out the playground, on the way there we have to pass the p4 door.

there was another mum who standing at the p4 door with her other child, a little boy of around 4. today when we walked past she was shouting at him to "come back here you little cu*t" my mouth about hit the floor in shock, when he never came right over to her she shouted that she was going to "batter him"

i turned to my friend expecting to see her as shocked at me but she just said oh thats so and so she always talks like that to her children, i said i had never seen her before and my friend laughed saying that she cant believe i have missed her for this long, seemingly she is the talk of the school because of the way she acts.

by this point we were past her and i made some comment about next time i hear her talking like that i will have to say som,ething but my friend says someone had already done this and ended up getting a punch i am no way scared of speaking my mind but dont want to end up scrapping with some psycho in the playground.

my dd1 asked me what a cu*t was when we were passed her.

It will probably be the best thing she's done in her life if she becomes a social worker. She
will be able to analyse where she went wrong and relate to people in the same situation

I doubt it, to be brutal. She doesn't have a clue!

LOL-Okay, tis true that you know her and I don't. Just trying to be optimistic cause it is so very depressing.

I wish I hadn't read this thread now. I feel quite sick to think of people talking to their kids like this in the playground.

It is definately not normal - I have never heard this said where I live.

And don't bother reporting them to SS - I mean, what exactly would you achieve by doing this

I know, nametaken, it prbably wouldn't do a lot of good..I was just shocked at people threateing/talking to their dc like that

If ever a mother was behaving like that in my playground I swear to God I would covertly film her and post it up on youtube and then inform the local paper what I'd done.

And the national press too.

I'm not joking, I would honestly do it.

Anonomysly, of course

There is a parent like this at my childrens school. She speaks to her child like dirt, and thinks that his swearing is because he's showing signs of ADHD...nothing to do with her, of course.

When the kids were all in the Nursery, she got called in one day. When she came out, she was laughing "God, you'll never guess what he's fcking done now...called the teacher a cnt!" She found this highly amusing.

Her most ironic moment was when he got out of the car and ran off and she screamed "Get here you little sht".
He yelled back "Shut up you dckhead!"
And she yelled back, "Don't you f*cking tell me to shut up!"

All of the other mums are lovely, and this mother is completely isolated. It's sad because the little boy is known for his bad behaviour and it is all down to his mother.

mrsruffalo, the women I heard talking about the children fighting I did talk to the teacher about and apparently they were already 'known' to SS

God VS HOW DEPRESSING

It's very sad to think that some parents speak to their kids like that. The one that I found most upsetting was the little boy that came out of Reception proudly holding his picture and his Mum ignored it and told him to fucking hurry up and dragged him by the arm across the playground. Fancy, not only speaking to your child like that, but not pausing to admire his work and tell him how clever he is and what a lovely picture.

I know MP - I used to get a lump in my throat all the time

very sad, but not uncommon as most people have said- I aggree, talk to the head. i visited a nursery the other day and they had put up a notice -in several places so you couldn't miss it- along the lines of 'please think about how you speak -offensive language is not acceptable' maybe they had had a similar incident- doesn't address the physical abuse though. Very sad.

The problem is social services hands are tied until something bad happens in a lot of cases - they can offer people support with parenting classes and the like, but unfortunately the parents who need it most are very unlikely to take advantage of it.

I used to hear that little boy read sometimes and he used to be in a cookery class I took at school and he really was an absolute gem, eager to please, polite and so pleased when praised - he quickly became a favourite of mine.

There is no way that he would be in this situation now, had he had more proficient parenting or more intervention from the care organisations but the best thing long term for children is to be with their natural parents apparently, as long as 'basic' needs are met - of course we all have different definitions of basic needs.

I would report it to the school. Inappropriate behaviour anywhere, let alone in a school playground.

It is awful - i heard someone calling their grandchild (!) a twat the other day -
"You like the nightgarden don't you?"
child - "yes"
"Twat!"
I couldn't believe it!!

A town not far from where I live seems to be full of the type of mum you describe. It's impossible to go shopping there without coming across at least one mum f**ing and blinding at her dcs. The schools are like war zones. It has a sky high crime rate. I wonder why?